Have you ever rejected a person who likes you and then wished you did not?

Honestly, that has never happened to me.

To talk about this is an admission of how shallow and insecure I was when younger. There were a few girls that I gave the cold shoulder to when I was in college because I felt they were not going to be acceptable to my friends. Later, as I got to know them a bit I realized they might have become good friends and/or lovers if I had been mindful of what I wanted in a partner and I was willing to choose for myself and not my friends.

Great question.

I have a few times, and I used to feel mixtures of curiosity and regret.

I wish I had more time to answer this more comprehensively, but I’m hungry and now I have other stuff to tend to.

I like to think of myself like I can judge someone rather fast and not make mistakes. But I did make a few of those but eventually it turned up to be they were interested only in the circle of friends I was seeing and not the persons there. So I can say it’s not exactly what you describe but it’s the closest I’ve been to.

Yes. It was probably just because in a sense, I was never sure if they liked me in the first place. Yes, I tend to be very paranoid in these sorts of situations. But now that he has a girlfriend, sometimes it kills me inside. But I guess everything’s better now, we fool around alot. :) Not in a sexual manner. >_>

I thought she was too good for me, beautiful, highly educated; very intelligent & her parents were wealthy too :-/
I guess I never thought I’d measure up!! I broke it off…. It never dawned on me; until I shot myself in the foot, so to speak, that she really wanted me for who I was, not who she was or who her parents were…. Talk about regret; I fucked up! There was no going back, too much damage had been done… Those butterflies are back to haunt me!
I was young; & a bit thick, Lol….....

Yes. I am dealing with that now, with an old flame from 9 years ago that has recently expressed he would like to renew a relationship with me. Not interested. I like him as a person, but, I have no desire to revisit the past.

I’m a female and have had the friend-or-more situation come up several times and no, I’ve not yet regretted my decisions to go with my gut and keep friend zone peops in the friend zone.

When I was a sophomore in high school, my best friend made an incredibly awkward advance and I rejected him. I then ended up dating someone else for over a year and we were still best friends. Then, senior year of high school, we dated for almost a year and then broke up. I don’t actually regret rejecting him that first time because I broke up with him and went off to college so there was no stewing for either of us. It’s not like we were forced to face each other in school and our friends had to choose sides. However, we didn’t speak for pretty much the entire time I was in college but about a month ago, we became best friends again. I do not think this would have happened if we had broken up and been forced to see each other in high school, so I do not regret rejecting him at first.

Yes. In 7th grade I turned a girl down who wanted nothing more than to go out with me. I’ve always regretted it because I really had no reason to say no.

I don’t recall anyone ever coming on to me. But then, I was pretty insecure for most of my life, and I doubt I would have recognized anyone coming onto me even if they had. So I don’t think I ever even had the opportunity to turn someone down, and since it was so rare for anyone to be interested in me even after much wooing, it seems difficult to imagine I would turn around and turn them down if they were interested.

Later on, I would push people away, but that was because of me, not them. And even as I was pushing them away, I was wishing they would convince me they wanted to stay. But there has been no one I recall regretting turning down later on because I was never clear I was pushing them away. In the end, they were the one who called it off. It was kind of hard for me to beat myself up for them breaking it up with me, even if I was the one who did the initial pushing.

This is way more complicated that this question calls for. I’ll stop here.

Yes/no.

No. I’ve always just said no when I meant no and yes when I meant yes. Never changed my mind. No regrets, games, and no worries.

I didn’t reject the person, but I didn’t give him as much encouragement as I could have, because I was afraid that maybe he didn’t like me after all or he would cease to like me once he knew me better. Well, now I’ll never know either way. I have since moved on, but I wish I had given it a chance instead of letting the opportunity pass.