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What to do when u in love with somebody if they keep hurting you?

Asked by taranika (1points) May 13th, 2008 from iPhone

I keep taking my boyfriend back everytime he hurt me when he cheats or when he hit me I always say I am leaving him alone what should I do

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simone54's avatar

Simple…

He’s an asshole and you’re gonna find you don’t love him.

Don’t take him back again.

That’s all.

wildflower's avatar

Get perspective, think about what is good for you ( he won’t). Make a decision, stick with it and dont look back. It’ll hurt for a while, but it’ll pass and you’ll be happy you made your choice.

whatthefluther's avatar

Its time you show some self respect and dump the creep. And now, before he hurts you again.

Stormcrow's avatar

You already know what you need to do my dear. Anything we tell you, I’m quite sure, your family and friends have told you countless times before. Sooner or later it’s going to come to a point when you’ll finally decide that it’s either you or him. I’ve watched my sister and cousins go through relationships like this and words never seemed to get through.

I hope that you are different…

seprilo's avatar

You think you won’t survive without him. Truth is, you will.

zaid's avatar

you have to be ready to go through the pain of being without him. it will be hard, but in the long run, you’ll be better off.

sndfreQ's avatar

All of the above and this

The choice is 100% yours and you have the freedom and right to be free of this and pursue true happiness.

jrpowell's avatar

This is valuable time you are spending with an asshole while you should be spending it (the time) looking for a guy that will support, love, and treat you properly. It might hurt now but in a month you can be infatuated with another guy.

Here is a hint. A guy that hits you won’t ever stop hitting you. Ask my mom. She put up with it for fifteen years.

marinelife's avatar

Tell yourself that you deserve better than the treatment he is dishing out. Tell yourself you are too good for him. Keep saying it until you believe it. Tell yourself: I am a good person. I am loving and treat others well. I deserve to be loved and treated well. Say it 10 times a day. Write it on your mirror and look at it every time you look at yourself.

Keep practicing and work you way up to: I demand to be treated with respect. I have no time in my life for people who treat me badly.

Babo's avatar

He obviously doesn’t know how to love you. It may hurt for a while to let him go but you’ll save yourself a lot more hurt in the longrun. You don’t deserve to be cheated on and you certainly don’t deserve to be hit!!! Hitting often escalates… He could be trying to kill you in a few years. Please get rid of him for good and give yourself a chance to find someone who can treat you in a loving manner.

witchhazel's avatar

Don’t take him back! As long as you take him back, you are pretty much giving him permission to cheat on you. You need a good dose of self-love and self-respect. You should have left after the first time he hit you. Once you leave, I’m sure you will look back and say to yourself “Why the hell didn’t I do that sooner?”. Good luck. You can make it on your own. Have a little faith in yourself!!!!!!!

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