Relationship Advice...it's been awhile.

He might just be busy. You will come off as needy if you are seeking attention and going to ask, “What’s up? Why haven’t you been texting me?” So my conclusion is you should just steak it out, if you have been out of the dating game for some time, why not go out with some friends who might bring some friends. Perhaps maybe a ballgame? Good old movie theaters? Museum etc.

Thanks for both parts of your reply. As I suspected, it will sound needy and not change anything for the better, eh?
I love your avatar, @whitetigress !

It might not sound needy if the trend continues and he doesn’t reply by the weekend. Maybe you can go ahead and shoot a, “Hey how’s it been.” Kind of thing. But be aware not to make it sound so personal. He could be playing a game with you too. As long as you think you were never coming on too strong it might be all good. Some weeks are pretty busier than others.

What if I did come on too strong at some point? Can I recover?

I’ve honestly never gone for a girl who was persistent or came on too strong. It’d be bias if I gave you advice about that one.

That in itself is good advice…I will play it coooooool. :)

Unlike @whitetigress , I love it when a woman knows what she wants and is open and direct with me. My wife is the one who proposed, if that tells you anything! : D

Don’t play it anything. Decide what you want to do. Whatever he experiences with you should be you, not some created persona from a bunch of strangers on a QnA site. Do what you feel—that is you. Don’t worry about it being a mistake; it will not be; it will be you. He deserves to experience you, not us.

> What if I did come on too strong at some point? Can I recover?

This sounds as if you think you maybe (probably…actually…) did. Want to say more so we know what we’re looking at here?

I’m assuming you mean too strong for you—more than you feel comfortable with. If you mean too strong for him, well, I’d say that if you tend to be forthright and he scares easily, you might be barking up the wrong tree on this one. You’d be having to rein yourself in constantly, and he’d feel the push anyway, and the tension would just be there all the time.

It’s better to talk to him and find out what’s happening than constantly worrying about the event. You’re just asking him what’s happening; you’re not really putting yourself on the line.

Like it or not, all relationships at the beginning are a kind of dance, with neither side wanting to appear too eager and each hesitant about getting more involved. In a way it reminds me of the old Groucho Marx line, “I don’t care to belong to any club that will have me as a member.”

Keep it cool. Maintain contact and see how it plays out. Remain open to other possibilities. We may denounce playing this kind of game, but we all do it. Maybe in the best of all worlds things would be different, but not in this world.

I can give you some advice that is ancient, but may still be good today as ever.

Let him take the lead. If you email him too much, he will think you are a pushover and a desperate woman.

By the way, he is not married, is he? If so, you are flirting with dynamite and a no-happy ending.

If he is a free person and interested in you, he will contact you again.

Let him make the next move.

Just wondering if he is presently in a relationship and just flirting.

Something else that occured to me, my facebook time has dropped off because of this darn site. Maybe it is something as simple as that or did something happen right beforehand?