What made you feel most intensely jealous?

When my elder brother was given a shiny new bicycle for christmas. Okay, seeing as though he was the oldest he probably had that right & yes I got one the next year, but that stung dammit. He didn’t even give me a ride, the bastard!

I dont think I’ve ever felt “intensely jealous” about anything. I’m not, by nature, a jealous person.

I’ve probably felt a little envious, but I would either quickly forget it or (if it really bugged me) turn it into a source of motivation.

My daughter learned in kindergarten, “You get what you get and you don’t get upset”. Pollyana-ish sure, but it works for me. Plus, im not under the impression that life is fair or that the universe owes me anything.

That being said, if I ever walk in on my wife with the mailman…I’ll get back to you.

Love a girl. She told me she loved me and wanted to marry me one day. She moved away and instantly got a new boyfriend. Asked me to come visit. I told her no. Raging jealousy engage.

When I found out that my (now ex)-boyfriend was talking to his ex-girlfriends, female friends, and random people online in pretty explicit ways…

Well, not sure if that is “jealously” as much as sheer anger and hurt…

Also, I am incredibly jealous of my best friend/apartment-mate. She is taking 18 credits of a non-science major… and spends most of her time watching Netflix.. while I work constantly for 15 credits.

Watching my friends begin the next chapter of their lives at their first year of college while I sat at my parents’ house getting my intestines rearranged.

About three years ago, my husband opened up emotionally to someone on Facebook. She was a “friend” through a game he played and he saw something that she had written. It was well-written and touched something within him. This prompted him to tell her that, but he also told her things that he would not normally have told a random stranger. The conversation continued, but never became inappropriate. It upset me because he told her emotional things that he was not sharing with me at that time.

At that same time, another “game friend” had her computer die and she was only able to get online once or twice a week. He posted a note on her Facebook wall: “When will you have a computer? Miss ya!” Sounds fairly innocuous until you understand that I had been in school for 2½ years anywhere from 2 to 4 nights per week (Depending on the semester) and at that point I was also gone from 7:30AM to 5:00PM on Saturdays along with the 2 nights. He never said that he missed me unless I said it first. That hurt and made me jealous that he could toss that off to her but not bother to say it to me.

I think your examples are intensified because the feeling of jealousy came after the realization of betrayal. Perhaps if a clear breakup had occurred first, and betrayal never experienced, then the jealousy would have been more reasonable.

I know in the past when I have been betrayed, even right in front of my face, the anger comes from discovering that I’ve been duped… anger at her for being a liar, anger at the situation of being disrespected, and anger at myself for being stupid enough to believe in something that didn’t exist.

I might get a little jealous hearing an ex-girlfriend is seeing another guy. But if she betrayed me, anger rules the day… not jealousy.

I so happy to be older now and not so affected by that stuff anymore. Youth sucks.