What are some of the good things you have done for yourself in your life?

I married the most appropriate woman in the world for me.

She has always understood me and has had my back for 46 years.

She never asks for anything and she is still “one fine babe”.

A lot of much needed self-therapy.

Coming out of the closet.

Quitting drinking.

Stopped giving a fuck about what others think about me.

^Yes, that was of the utmost for me too, @johnpowell. Once I got that one, the rest fell into place

At its most basic level, being good to myself, generally, means giving more time to me… Going to bed earlier, reading a book, having a bath, treating myself to a 1-shot soya latte (my favourite)... and forgiving myself more frequently rather than beating myself up over x-y-z.

I never had kids, (phewwwwie), what an escape that was! :-/

I am getting a grip on my anger issues which was related to my addictions which I have begun to manage better. I am exercising more and in the best shape I have been in a long time. Doing more yoga and meditation is the glue that is keeping my chaotic self together.

Therapy in my 20’s, leaving my first husband, marrying my second husband!

I managed to set aside the obsession I had with achievement for the first 18 years of my life when making my college decision. Instead of choosing the Ivy League school that gave off a very dog-eat-dog vibe, I chose a smaller, virtually unheard of school that still has great academics but also puts a lot of effort into students’ wellbeing.

Leaving a long-term relationship that wasn’t good for me… and leaving a job I hated to go back to school.

Found my place to grow and serve in the US Army. Adopted three of the greatest childen on the planet and fathered two more. Married the woman who had become my best friend. : )

Made contact with my birth father and half siblings.

Moved out on my own.

Let myself feel okay in limiting the contact I keep with particular family.

Treating myself now and then to something I really want instead of thinking it’s only okay to have if someone gifts it to me. There was this thing in me, I have no idea where it came from but I used to think, girls don’t buy themselves jewelry, perfume or fancy clothes.

In training now to feel okay to turn down extra work and not feel I have to justify it somehow to anyone around beyond I’m tired, I want days off.

I studied hard throughout school and university and it paid off.

I’ve worked hard to get where I am today.

As a child, I was very overweight, so in my teenage years, I got fit——exercised, dieted, did weights, swam everyday, and lost many pounds. I changed from having a “pear-shaped Frosty the Snowman body” to having the body like the Academy Awards’ “Oscar” statuette. . Lol.

I always make sure that I have some money squirreled away for fun, and not just for the expenses.