"I wish I met you before getting married" What is the meaning of this phrase?

If you don’t understand that statement you are too young to be here. This is an honest and helpful answer. The part of the meaning that is not obvious is “I am not trustworthy.” Be sure you hear that loud and clear.

The person who said it would like to engage in sexual intercourse with the person it was said to, but given the restrictions imposed by marriage, such act is not possible.

Translation: Let’s screw and not get serious. I’m married and don’t want my spouse to find out.

In my opinion it could mean a lot of things. It could mean that the person is just attracted to you and was just expressing a thought that maybe if he were not married there could have been something between the two of you. Or, it could mean he would like to get into your pants and not let his spouse find out.

Hope this helps!

You should have asked the person who said it.

“What do you mean by that”?

They are saying they’d hit on you if they thought they could get anywhere with it, having put their marital status out on the table. It’s usually pretty cringeworthy to hear this from someone you know is married.

It translates to: I’m scummy and want you even though I’m married…....

that would be my conditioned response.
maybe it means:

I’m into you but I know my limits because I’m married and I’m a good person so I’m going to let you know that if I wasn’t married I’d pursue you, but because I am, I will not.

It means “Before I got married, you would have been great to Sport Fuck”.

In my experience, it might mean “You’re making me realize my spouse isn’t as great as I thought he was”. Proceed with caution.

Yeah @FutureMemory…
and from the OP “This was said after a little flirting throughout the night.”

Sounds like a guy who puts a lot of thought in his words. Sounds like a guy who really means what he says… you know, like when he said his vows.

This was spoken by a woman, not a man.

same difference

If it was after flirting, it prob just means something of a sexual nature. But, @FutureMemory , I agree that sometimes it might mean what you said but not after flirting, maybe after an evening together or talking for a long time.

Good distinction, Simone. I agree.

It means that on first impression, they are really attracted to you. They wish they could have had a chance to get to know you when they had a chance for something more. But they’re married and so it was a nice flirtation and it is a compliment to you.

It doesn’t have to mean all the insidious, immoral stuff that a lot cynical/jaded people think.

I agree with @wundayatta.

It really depends on the people involved and the circumstances. It might mean that they have an infatuation with you, it may mean that they don’t like their current spouse and think you are a trade-up, it might just mean that they wish they are trying to figure out how to get out, or whether they really want to stay…

It means they regret getting married to who they are with.

Welcome to Fluther!
It’s just a line that means she finds you attractive. Don’t be taken in by it.

“You’re not getting any tonight but keep me in your contact list. Now, buy me another drink.”

It really depends on the conversation you were having.. I heard that once said by a woman I knew. Neither one of us are gay. We were talking about marriage and she was in a bad relationship. We were discussing topics that should come up before getting married. She simply was wishing that she had know some of these things before and she could’ve either avoided marrying the wrong guy or at least make her expectations clear before getting married and know what his expectations were so she would feel more informed before the big I do’s.
Now when a guy says it, he can either be joking about it and just want to flatter you or he pretty much is saying that he settled for what he could get at the time.
I have a cousin who cooks like great and a lot. She often hears men in her life tell her that they wish they had met her and lots of these guys are way younger than her. They simply mean to say that their wives don’t cook as well or even at all and they wish they had one that cooked like she does. Or its as @wundayatta mentioned above. I agree..
So it depends. Was this person laughing when they said it or dead serious.

I agree with both @wundayatta and @Pandora.
I’m also curious, if anyone who thought the statement was an invite to an extramarital affair by a man, changed their mind, once @garcx revealed it was actually a woman who said that?

Lobo has an answer to your question in a song…..........

Where Were You When I Was Falling In Love. Listen on Youtube.

I agree with @Pandora; maybe the person making the statement is simply flattering the other person and has no interest…sexual or otherwise…in the other person at all.

A convenient way of saying what you would do…free of the committment to actually do anything.

I’m a female and I’ve heard this several times, more times than I can count from men. In all of those situations, the person “hitting me up” was not innocent and complimentary, each one of them had ulterior motives and would have taken me up a chance to mess around so I’ve got to disagree with @wundayatta on this.

It took me a long time (decades) and a lot of advice to not be so naive. I’m sure we’d all like to think the best of other people and take it as a compliment but… well, you’ll find out!

@Neizvestnaya I suppose it depends on what you mean when you say “hitting on.” In any case, there seem to be a couple of reasonable generalizations to make from your experience. Either all men are ready to fool around, or you attract men who are more willing to fool around with women who aren’t their wives.

Maybe all men are dogs. I’ve heard that many times from women. I’ve heard it from men, too. The thing is, if that is the behavior we expect, that is the behavior we will get. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. But the prophecy frees both frees men from personal responsibility because they know it’s what women expect, and it also frees women from having to be very defensive because they tell themselves that’s just the way it is, and they can’t help it if they can’t defend themselves.

Given the numbers on infidelity, I’d say there’s a surprising number of dogs out there, all around. And yet, there are many who aren’t, as well. Some of whom honestly like others and are willing to tell them so without needing to provide pressure for things to go further.

I’ve heard this a few times myself. And in each case, the speaker was someone from whom I would be concerned about getting STDs.