Do you need everything to be alright all the time?

Nothing is ever all right all the time so I don’t know what that feels like or whether I want it. I’m not quiet nor shy. I do argue and get into fights. As to whether I let it go, it depends. If I value you or think you’re my equal, it’s harder. If I don’t think much of you, please, I’m letting it go. I don’t need to make piece with my enemies, that’s a ridiculous goal. I’ve got a lot of ‘enemies’. I could be the peacemaker, yes. And here, on Fluther, I let it go, usually. But I remember. A lot.

No, I’m happy when just most everything is alright most of the time.

There is stuff that needs to be done, you do it. People get in your way, you ignore them, and get it done.

I find people who like to fight for status rarely have any.

No. It’s nice when everything is alright, and right now it IS for me, but change happens, sometimes quickly.

Learning to live with uncertainty in life is what overcoming neurosis is. lol

Otherwise I am a assertive type and usually action oriented, once I identify a need for action I’m on it.

@zensky, have you been steaming the mail envelopes again? Seems like you can sure read mail.

No, but it would be nice if anything would feel alright sometimes. I guess I just never feel the right way.

Some things bother me, but most things don’t. But I am pretty passionate about the things that bother me, so I comment on them.

I’ve never been one for confrontation, seems like a huge waste of resources to me.
Peace loving, happy, contented disposition, that’s me.

If I needed everything to be alright, or all right, all the time, I would be stark raving mad by now, because as @Simone_De_Beauvoir points out, nothing is ever all right, all the time. It isn’t and can’t be. If you want a recipe for driving yourself and everyone around you crazy, simply refuse accept the reality of that fact and spend your life trying to make everything all right, all the time.

It’s a nice thought.

No, things just have to be bearable. Anything else is a luxury.

I’m not at all quiet or shy, but I do feel a need to make peace with everyone to feel at peace within myself. I know it’s a daft aim, (although I do generally manage it) but it’s who I am. Confrontation really affects me, not just by finding it upsetting, but I physically react to it (I guess mild panic attack style), so I make a lot of effort to avoid it, and to move beyond it when it happens. That would be the peacemaking side to me.

If there’s something I feel really strongly about, I absolutely will confront someone about it, just in the knowledge that it will affect me for some time after that. I don’t consider myself weak, I just prefer to feel good in myself, so choose that route where I can.

If I had to have everything all right all the time I wouldn’t spend my time here, that’s for sure!

I’m a bit of all of the above.
I used to be more confrontational than I am now.
But generally, these days I really think about what’s important
and what’s not. What tings I should give power to in effecting me personally,
and what things I should let go.

I’ve realized that, people are just people, like me. ..
to let some other person negatively affect me is something I generally don’t bother with.

I like everything to be all right all the time. I am quiet and I tend to avoid confrontation but once I get confrontational I can be stubborn. I don’t like conflict as it is a waste of energy and there is rarely a good reason for it. I don’t really have any enemies. I have disagreements with a few people but that doesn’t mean they are enemies.

I just read the best advice on getting along. I think if I practice this I will become the ultimate peacemaker.

“When you are wrong, promptly admit it. When you are right, shut up!!!

Ogden Nash

I like that. ON was brilliant.