How long would you wait on someone, to start a relationship?

That depends how much you like or care for the person I guess. I am in a similar situation at the moment, for 3 nearly 4 months she has waited for me, and now on the 13th I’ll finally be going.

If we take in to account that I have never actually met this person, and that we have both had other offers while we have been waiting, and that even so we have waited months for each other, then I would say if you actually know the person in question, and there is no problem with the relationship, then maybe 6 months or even a year is fine.

No idea. I once waited for maybe 8 months to physically renew an exclusive relationship. That wasn’t an issue and I can easily see waiting years, if necessary, for a couple people in my life. Then those are all established relationships. It’s a very situational thing; how strong are the bonds between you, how are the “costs” accumulating, and how well can you manage each. I would suspect each person and each relationship is likely to be different – but then love has a way with time, making flit or lumber at its whim.

It depends on the communication between us, on their situation, etc.

Is this a hypothetical or a real question? If it is hypothetical, it is meaningless. If it really applies to you or a friend, we need more details to give a valid response.

4 months and 17 days.

If they were the one and I was certain of it…Years.

If you are both actively planning and making waves for them to come over, and if you are both missing each other terribly, and talking all the time, and sharing your days with eachother despite the distance…. then you wait as long as it takes.

It’s when events, and governments, conspire against you to make it feasably impossible for you to be together that it gets difficult. That’s the point this cookie crumbled.

@janbb Is this a hypothetical or a real question? It is a generic one to situations I have seen people in over the years. Sometimes, it is one party coming to the US awaiting someone. Other times it is someone here who met someone returning overseas, and planning to travel over to there. If I tried to zero in on each situation, it would get long and the Grammar and Style Gestapo would lose some kittens.

If the hypothetical us has decided this is serious relationship then I’d wait up to 6mos for a visit from them.

There are no generic solutions to individual relationships.

If I tried to zero in on each situation, it would get long and the Grammar and Style Gestapo would lose some kittens.

What does that mean? Is it offensive to label attention to grammar (which, by the way, does not pertain here) and style (equally irrelevant here) as equal to the Gestapo? As a Jew, do I find this objectionable? Yes.

As a non-Jew, @gailcalled, I found it offensive, too

For heaven sakes, then I will say Grammar and Style hitmen, Goon Squad, or KGB. There is nothing wrong with having a grammatical point shown. However, phrases like this, I would thing that getting sweaty with a string in you cheeks would be really uncomfortable, happen all the time around here, and no, it is not mine, as you should well know. So long as the intent of the reader can understand it, hashing over every instance of something not APA quality is just annoying, and boring. If we were back in school and half my final grade depended on it, it might have more weight. If there was some official Grammar and Style KGB picking apart every instance Collective wise, at least I can say that is what they do, and ignore them just the same, as much as humanly possible anyhow.