I have been unemployed for a little over 3 months now. Is it right for me to freak out ?

In the past you probably have not been out of work during a recession period. Unemployment is pretty high right now and according to the DOL’s statistics, the average length of unemployment is around 10 months as of last month. I imagine it isn’t remarkably different in other places.

Don’t get discouraged, keep on applying, and keep on staying up to date in the field that way you don’t feel so disconnected. You are lucky in that you are not reliant on finding a job right not to stay alive, so at least that is something to take great solace in.

Freaking out will do nothing, except create drama and anxiety for you.

All you can do is keep searching and accept what is.

Fighting with reality will only make you mentally ill and effect your health.

This too shall pass…keep that in your thoughts, not from a religious perspective, but as a simple and fundamental life truth.

Don’t personalize not getting a job as a “rejection.” It is not.

If you are over or under qualified or simply deemed to not be a good fit, that is not personal “rejection”, it is just a fact that the potential employer thinks they can find a better fit for their needs.

One of the most important life lessons we can learn is to accept the moment for what it is and to be in the moment.

You can choose to make yourself sick over this, or, you can choose to take what daily action you can and then let it GO!

If you send off several resumes, or inquiries then, you have done what you can for this day and it is up to you to release your efforts and reapply them elsewhere. Maybe take a walk, tidy up your house, make a nice dinner for your partner, do something FUN!

Worrying changes nothing.

Good luck!

Yes. But not as often and not as much. When I found out I’m going to lose my job of nine years, I was catatonic and zombified for days. Luckily, I have families, friends and a SO that were all supportive. That counts a major lot.

Wow, @Coloma , you took the words right out of my mouth. My adult son was out of work for two years and what you just said was exactly what I preached to him the whole time. Luckily he is one of my kids that actually listens to me. He has been back to work for about 6 months now, with a whole new job and learning a new skill set, and he is as happy as a clam. (He was a welder, now he is a die cutter.) Everything works out eventually.

If your husband has a suitable income to support the two of you for now, why not start your own business?

It is understandable that you are freaking out, but it is not necessary. Three months is not that long to job hunt.

It is probably looming so large in your mind, because you are in a strange country. Join local hobby groups in your interest area (could also help you network for finding a job) or volunteer. You will meet people, and it will take your mind off being unemployed.

My son has been out of work over a year now, and my adult grandson for nearly two years, with the exception of one month last December. The economy is down world wide.

Three months isn’t a long time. you can’t freak out which will do nothing to the job hunting. And in fact, you are still getting learning to fulfill and enrich yourself. This is good. Sometimes luck don’t touch you, but you need to be patient.

I know freaking out will do nothing, but trying to force yourself not to freak out will just make it worse. Feeling anxiety is totally normal. Write about it. Talk about it. Let yourself feel freaked out once a day. Believe it or not, but allowing yourself to have the feelings will decrease them after a while.

If you focus on trying to banish your natural emotions and reactions to things, you’ll just end up still freaked out—and feeling guilty about it.