Am I being unreasonable?

No. He’s hurt and he’s mad and trying to hurt you. Ignore him.

That guy sounds like a massive dork. For real. You were far more kind than I would have been. I’d have ripped the piss out of that nerd.

@cockswain, well, we were in Jeffs room, and he has it in his head that I’m not a mouthy little wench… So I kept it nice. :/
You have an amazing name, by the way. >.<

No you’re not being unreasonable. He’s just mad that when told you he needs to move on, you just said ‘fine’. He wanted you to give a shit, to try to stop him. Mind games up he wazoo. He’s not worth it.

But I didn’t want to stop him… I told him a long time ago where we were, and where we were going… Which was nowhere.

I agree 100% with @Simone_De_Beauvoir on this one. That and he is a guy.

What everyone else said, but on top of that he’s trying to purposely rile you up so you’ll think about him. It seems to be working…

@Haleth, only in bad ways.

Walk away girl, walk away.

@rojo, I believe that’s what I did. Right after he called me a bitch, and I called him something that’s NSFW. ;)

Good, You did what both of you needed to have done. Now, be strong and DO NOT give in and have anything else to do with him.

Any time someone asks if they are being unreasonable… they are being reasonable.

He doesn’t want to be friends. He’s pissed that his feelings are unrequited. He also must have a pretty selfish ego to treat you like that in front of your friends. It’s called passive aggressive behaviour and he’s really bad at it, too.

Ignore him and let him get over what ever ‘crush’ he’s got on you. He’s confusing his feelings of self-doubt and self-loathing and throwing them onto you, because that’s the easy and immature thing to do. He’s making an idiot out of himself, but that’s what young men do when they think they are in love and scorned. You just need to take the high road here and give him the space to thrash around until he gets it out of his system. He’ll feel foolish enough about the whole thing, in time. You won’t have to add any fuel to the fire.

You should have punched him in the cock, for he’s a weedy little pissant & deserves a swollen penis for his impudence. Be gone, needledick!!

( I fended off the occasional smarmy character. They act like you are the best thing in the world and are so full of compliments and wonderment at your accomplishments and every thought you express, but then as soon as you let them know that you aren’t going to make out with them, or become their ‘girlfriend’, suddenly, you are the wicked witch of the west; the most cruel thing that ever walked the earth. Hmmm…. the urge to whack them over the head with a Jane Austin novel is almost overwhelming.)

You were not at all unreasonable. He’s trying to recruit your friends in his campaign to “win you back”. It’s not a cool tactic. Your actions will inform your friends (without you having to say or ‘explain’ anything) just how rude he’s being.

He needs to learn how to be a man and get over you, then settle down and simply be a friend. (Try to grant him the expectation that that is possible, and it might be so.)

What would have happened if you had just sat there silently to see what would come next? He’s angry. You aren’t. Saying something angry in return lowers you to his level. Keep to the high ground.

@ucme…. Hahahahahahaha. Wow…. >.<
@cazzie… Agreed!
@Sunny2, I wasn’t angry. But that doesn’t mean I’m going to tolerate people talking about me, like I’m not even there. It’s not a show, for my entertainment. I know what he’s doing.

@ucme said it better than I could.

@ucme, yikes! hahahahaha

I think your behaviour is understandable. It sounds like he was taking his hurt out on you and you stood up for yourself.

@AshLeigh No. of course you don’t have to put up with that. Any body who says you’re being a bitch when you’re not, isn’t worth wasting time on. Walk away for now.

You guys have no clue who I am, or what I am about. Your heavily mislead about my personality.

@JoeyOhSoClever If you are the guy she is talking about, you’re not doing yourself any favours by defending yourself like that. It only makes you look more guilty than if you’d said nothing at all…

That is, of course, unless you are a different Joey and making a joke because the guy shares the same name as you.

We worked it out.
No fighting, please.

I don’t see a fight taking place, but I’m glad you two worked it out.

I know. I was just saying not to start fighting. :)

Alright. That makes sense. I’m not planning to anyway. Don’t worry. I know that he has his side of the story. I was just giving him a hint to not defend himself like that, because of what it makes it look like to people who are on the outside looking in. We’ve talked through PMs and he knows my intentions now. From our conversation, I would say that he is quick to understand a misunderstanding when it is explained to him and pretty reasonable. You have a good friend, despite anything that was said about him up there that makes it look like he’s not that nice of a friend. ^_^

No, he’s a great friend. I was just mad.

Yes. He said it was just an angry rant and that we didn’t understand that. He also seemed to give you the benefit of the doubt. I understand.

I’ve had some guys do this. The only solution I’ve found is to end the friendship and keep your distance. They need a lot of time to simmer down from it and some never come to their senses or see that they are being unreasonable. And whats worse is until they do they will continually put the blame on you for their unhappiness. Do not let this person manipulate you into feeding into their sick behavior. There’s a big difference between being in love and being obsessed and its very easy to get the two mixed up (when your young and dumb) but if he’s older and pulling this crap then stay away from him. Its not your responsibility to make him see he’s nuts.