NOT a utopia. Not even close. Really, much closer to a dystopia than a utopia. I mean, it has some upsides, it’s just, given the two options, dystopia.
Freedom: There’s a lot of exceptions to constitutionally guaranteed rights. A lot end up being more like privileges than rights. Like, you have the right to protest – but only in this manner at this time and this place, if you get the permit, for this long, and don’t really outrage anyone. Or, you have the right to free speech, unless it’s considered obscene or disturbing the peace or slander or libel or… Or, you have the right to petition for a writ of habeas corpus, unless we’ve suspended that right. Or, you have the right to bear arms, but only certain arms, and only if we haven’t deemed you an undesirable and decide to give you a gun permit.
Crime: A lot. Especially since we severely penalize what should be minor offenses as a way of stripping undesirables of their rights. We have the highest documented imprisonment rate in the world. Some states have the death penalty, a highly controversial issue when it comes to human rights. Often the sentences of non-violent offenders is longer than those of violent offenders.
Racism: More than anything, there’s lots of institutionalized covert racism and unexamined privilege. We’re still pretty segregated, just not in an “official” manner. There’s still a lot of Othering through various tropes (the Welfare Mom, for example). Statistics
Other stuff: 1 in 6 people don’t get enough to eat. Somewhere between 40 and 46 million people in America don’t have health insurance, and non-citizens take up 9–15 million of those people. Of those uninsured, 8 out of 10 are workers or their dependents – people who should, theoretically, have insurance. The unemployment rate (meaning people who want to work, but got laid off, and are actively trying to find jobs – stay at home parents, students who don’t have jobs, retirees, etc don’t count) is at 9%. There’s less social mobility than there is in much of Europe. There’s also a lot of sexism, homophobia, religious hatred, and other forms of bigotry.
In short, if your friend was thinking of moving here, he’s probably better off staying where he is. The cost of moving alone would probably negate any small advantage the US currently has over – can’t remember – Spain? Or the UK?