When my wife first started working at one of the bigger firms in town, she did the 60–70 hour a week thing and she was miserable. Eventually she was fired for being a woman (they settled the case out of court) and she went to work for a bank, and had more regular hours after that, although never as few as I had. She’d actually work 8 hours a day, which meant she had a 9 hour day.
I worked 9–5 with an hour for lunch. Seven hour work day. Although, I never worked 7 hours of straight work unless there was a real deadline. I don’t know how people do that.
For many years, she was happy with her job as a Trust Officer. Well, almost happy. She had to do a lot of sales, which she hates. But then she found a job as an internal consultant and she was happy for a couple of years. Then the bank was taken over and her department eliminated. She accepted a job working for an old boss she liked, but things were totally changed. They were assembly line workers—yes, even lawyers can be put on an assembly line. Intellectual labor is now just like ordinary labor. Doctors are on assembly lines and so are lawyers.
She grew more and more miserable and frankly, I was questioning whether I wanted to be with someone who seemed to hate me so much. I encouraged her to quit and finally she “retired.” The change in her personality is the proverbial night and day. Bad wife/good wife. She is being the happy, funny, fun person I fell in love with 25 years ago.
But she’s talking about working again. Not what she used to do. Something more emotionally rewarding. Something that is more helpful to regular people, not the rich ones she used to work for.
I’m still afraid that it’ll make her miserable again. I would hate to lose my wife again.
I once thought of becoming a lawyer. I think I would have made a good one, except I never would have been willing to work hard enough. I think people don’t understand our system well enough and don’t see what lawyers actually contribute. We have to have people who will defend even the most heinous of criminals. If we don’t, then people will be convicted even before they’ve had a trial, and that’s a slippery slope to tyranny. Even the frivolous law suits are beneficial—not individually, but as part of the system. There have to be lawsuits that push the edge of the envelope in order to make sure that there are enough justifiable law suits. And law suits are necessary in order to protect consumers, especially in times when the government won’t.