(NSFW) Has this ever happened to you?

Many people are perfectly happy being sexually active during menstruation.

Is this common thing? About once a month.

Why is it any more “ewww” than the stuff inside the condom?

What, exactly, is “ew” about that?

How old are you? You sound like you need to grow up a bit.

There is nothing wrong with having sex while a women is menstruating.

It may be possible that she tore a little anyway because of the sex or she may have come on early or something and didn’t realize until you mentioned it. She might be highly embarrassed and tried to play it cool when you are worried about a bit of blood!

If she knew I wouldn’t say its a big deal but I would have said something to the guy first as not to scare him but many women actually become more sexually aroused when they are on their period.

Its a bit of blood. Grow up.

Wow Fluther, you all sound like assholes to this obvious ‘kid’ who is asking about blood on his condom. Geesh. He was turned off and obviously lacks experience. Help him out, don’t discourage him from asking questions on the site.

Yes blood is common and it will happen again. Keep a towel close to the bed if you are turned off by the site of it.
Many couples have great sex during that special time of the month.
As you get older, you’ll get used to it. It happens. Props for wearing condoms.

In addition to what everyone else said about growing up and not being grossed out…

If she was surprised too, it could be that her period was due in a couple days, and the sex induced it early. That happens. There could also be blood if either of you have come into contact with the beach recently, as a single grain of sand can cause damage during sex (learned that the hard way).

If it bothers you let her know you prefer not to have sex during her period. Most men don’t care either way. If she bleeds in between periods during sex that can indicate an infection.

If you think periods are gross you should probably not be touching anyone’s vagina.

Sex = Body fluids. Sometimes all of them at once.

Try not to think of it as a big deal, because it does happen. It used to bother me, having sex during my ‘time of the month’ so, if the urge and opportunity presented itself, I would move the action to the shower. I would have to make sure to avoid the water to not mess up the natural lubrication, but we were both happy and satisfied after the activity and if there was some menstrual fluid, it would just be washed away and no ‘ew’ moment.

These days, just having sex at all, at any time of the month, would be a welcome change.

But seriously, really, when you’re being that intimate with someone there are going to be moments of TMI. Passing gas, muscle cramps, accidently hitting his nose as you change position, .. all sorts of imperfect bodily functions. It’s important to be really comfortable with the person and to make that person comfortable with you. I hope you didn’t freak out too much about the blood in front of her. If you did, you should apologise. She was probably more embarrassed than you.

(Here I am being all ‘old fashioned’ thinking you have a close relationship with this girl. Correct me if I’m wrong.)

Blood seems gross, but it’s just something to get used to. You’re wearing a condom so you don’t even come in contact with it. It’s just more lubricant, I expect. If she’s into doing it and you are, then do it. Nothing wrong with it. If it grosses you out, don’t do it.

There have been taboos about this throughout history. Sometimes women who are menstruating are forced to separate themselves from the community. Sometimes they are considered unclean. There’s more. It’s all a bunch of ignorant hooey.

I think this is where the judgment comes in. People are reacting instinctively to the idea and they try to invent reasons for the reaction. But there are none that I know of. I don’t think there are any health reasons to abstain from sexual intercourse when a woman is menstruating. So it becomes a personal preference. If it grosses you out, no one is forcing you to do it. But damn, man! Sex is so much fun! Why would you turn down a chance????

I had sex with a lover of mine who was on her period. She went out of her way to conceal this from me, even to the point of not letting me take off her underwear so she could hide her pad. Once everything was said and done, I noticed that I wound up covered in blood and I saw the pad in her underwear on the floor. I didn’t say anything and just shrugged it off and had sex with her again. It wasn’t a big deal at all.

It’s kind of hot, in fact. Women get feisty on their periods. *shrugs.

It’s a little odd to me that she didn’t mention she had her period. I would mention it if not just to put an old towel down so I didn’t stain my sheets or sofa, or whatever. Unless I was having sex outside or something.

Unless I was right at the beginning of my period and had not realized it was about to start.

Meh, deen there done that. I love how her nips were so sensitive.

@JLeslie I love her deeply, but she’s definitely an interesting character. I figured she was just embarrassed about it, but still wanted to have sex and didn’t know how to address the whole period issue.

@Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard It doesn’t make sense, it’s not like you would not eventually realize. I guess if you were teens at the time maybe she didn’t know how to handle it? The first time I had my period when I was sexually active and my bf wanted to have sex I told him, and he didn’t care. There was a popular book/movie at the time where the main characters have sex while she has her period and the sheets get full of blood. I guess it sort of put the whole thing out there in the pop culture in a way, making it ok. For me it isn’t a big deal because I would never bleed a lot. I use tampons, and don’t bleed a ton like some women, so I barely bleed while having sex even on my heaviest day.

@Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard I was 20 at the time, and she was 23, so it definitely wasn’t a teenage awkwardness thing. I don’t really get it either, but like I said, she’s a character, so I’m sure she had some reason.

Yes, though none on my actual period. A couple times there was spotting, and another couple of times there was some tearing involved (regular blood, not period blood).

If it grosses you out, don’t have sex during those times; not having period sex is a perfectly valid and acceptable choice. But try not to treat your girlfriend like she’s dirty or gross, because she doesn’t have control over it. And there may be certain things your penis does that she’s a bit squicked out by, so when talking to her about it, just ask yourself first “how would I want her to phrase this if she was talking to me about the things my pubic area does?”.

Now are we talking about advice for avoiding the mess? Like @JLeslie said, put down an old towel. Otherwise, go standing up from behind in the bathroom! Easier to clean up on linoleum or whatever, and you get a nice view in the mirror :)

Yes, it may be a bit off-putting at first, but it’s to be expected when you’re having sex with any woman. The pleasure you get from sex ought to override the grossness, and in time you’ll get used to it.

@Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard Actually, if you were fairly new partners at the time, maybe her previous bf didn’t care and didn’t need warnng so she just treated you the same, didn’t realize you might be very surprised or offput by it.

@all to reduce mess tampons on the trick. Take out the tampon a half our before so she is not completely dry and make sure the woman is very aroused and wet before trying to penetrate her. I am always surprised when women don’t use tampons in general, forget about sex while menstruating, but that is a separate topic.

@JLeslie it’s an on-again-off-again thing with us, but you may actually be right. That’s a more valid theory than anything else I’ve been able to come up with, at least.

My boyfriend and I often have sex when I am on my period. I do warn him first though!!

I thank you all for the answers that you have given. Id just like to say that I did not treat her in any disrespectful or immature way when it happened. I just threw away the condom and I did not mention it…she didnt even know I was grossed out. Thank you all for your answers because this has really given me a good outlook for when I am having more experiences. I am not that immature as you all think, I have had sex a few times with other partners before her but I have just never experienced that before…..