Have you ever gotten into a relationship with someone who was a huge flirt, then expected them to stop?

No. I’m not interested in huge flirts.

To my understanding, one should never get into relationships with the expectation that the other person will change for you. They won’t.

So if it’s gonna bother me that my partner is a flirt, I stay away.

Yes. Not only that but I got into a relationship with a girl that I knew was a “serial dater”.

When I met the girl, she quickly fell “in love” with me. I could already tell how it would be so I told her no, over and over again. We remained close friends and although I did develop feelings, I held them off because of a good lack of judgement. A few years went by along with a divorce on her part. Not long after, I finally decided to give into my own feelings. It only took about four months for her to start looking for someone else while she was with me. We lasted about a year with the last six months being completely awful. I don’t really know what exactly I was trying to hold on to after I caught her… several times. She eventually left me for a guy she never met.

I didn’t really expect her to change but I guess I was hoping she would. She made me feel special for the first five years I knew her. Really, I guess I thought I was just different from the other guys. Lesson learned. It doesn’t make much sense but I still think about and want that girl even after all she and I have been though and knowing how she is. Love is an awfully odd thing.

I’ve never been able to establish a connection with women who are overly flirtatious so I’m not sure how to answer this but I guess I would expect them to stop if they are dating me. However I’ve always had dates/relationships with straightforward women.

Yes, and it was accepted as part of his personality. I was 18 at the time. When he mentioned that he would be attending several different proms from the high schools in the surrounding area, it ended. There wasn’t any ill-will.. I knew what I was getting into by going out with him. Awhile after we broke up, I mentioned his name in front of my mother. She referred to him as SOB.. Shocked, I said, “What?” She respoinded, “SOB…Sneaky Ol’ Brian”.

The only person that can change one’s behavior is that person. Otherwise, it falls into the definition of insanity: doing / saying the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

No. I am not interested in huge flirts.
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You see it in men of all ages. Their wives put up with them. I guess that’s the only way to do it . . . learn to live with it or let ‘im go. I’d rather let him go, personally. He’s unlikely to change. (nor is she, if the flirt is a female.)

I am the huge flirt. I’ve had mixed results in dating people. Some expect me to shut it down, others just accept that it is part of my personality. I find it almost impossible to just stop completely, and for long stretches of time. It is such a natural part of how I interact with other people. But, that doesn’t mean that I go out and sleep around on my s/o.
Come to think of it, I have dated people like this.. and it has never bothered me.

I always have a problem with defining “flirt”. I’m very gregarious by nature, and I found that what people considered “friendly” when I lived in the West is considered “flirting” in New England. I try to take region and intent into consideration when making such judgments.

And, @Imadethisupwithnoforethought , I’m pretty sure this didn’t help at all, I just wanted to A) flirt B) be friendly <pick one> with Mal Reynolds.

I did. I didn’t expect him to change at first but once things got serious I was honest about how it made me feel and he did stop.