In what capacity will you be alone for the up and coming holidays? and how does that make you feel?

I will just be with my husband. My immediate family will be 3,000 miles away. Sometimes I too get lonely during the holidays. But my husband and my dogs are great company so I will more than muddle through.

It’s funny how we become accostumed to being alone really, I can’t imagine actually living with someone else now and I wonder whether it actually makes me quite a selfish person…or particular at least. But the holidays do have a way about them that make you want to snuggle on the sofa, read books and watch glorious films…I think it’s the cold weather that creates that need to huddle perhaps…a survival thing too… I wish you the most happy holidays sweetie xxxx

Gosh, with all the hustle and bustle I’m grateful to live alone at this time of year, especially. It’s nice to retreat to a space where I’m not required to be “on”. Of course I miss some far-away people, but I’ll miss them in March and July as well, so it’s no different.

Oh, yeah, and to answer the Q, KatawaGrey will be around some, and we celebrate together, but because of her work schedule she has to go back to her aprtment Chritmas night. I’m pretty sure she’ll be with be Christmas Eve and Day, though.

Our family usually tries to scout out someone who will be alone and invite them for the festivities. Everyone is on the lookout, but usually just one or two show up. It is always sad when we can’t find anyone. I love the changing dynamic of having special guests at out holiday feasts.

@JilltheTooth I know what you mean about the hustle and bustle..I look forward to the days after Christmas day when me and Theo can just chill at home (like we are doing today), play games, watch tv and feel truly relaxed x Hope you have a lovely time

@Judi That’s really lovely what you do..how do you go about scouting for people? I think that’s very brave as well, I would feel under a lot of pressure if I was entertaining someone else as well but I get that having someone else there would change the dynamic and be interesting and inevitably the fact that doing something really good for someone else has to be very profound xx

This will be my first Christmas without my mom. It will be sad but I’ll get through it. I don’t have anyone either, but I’ll go visit my brother for a few hours, hug around on his grandkids and dog. And finally on Dec. 26 be glad it is all over with.

The whole family just keeps their ears open. We don’t have people every year. We have a friend who is Muslim and divorced so his ex gets the kids at Christmastime. I think he and his girlfriend will be joining us this year as the rest of his family won’t be celebrating the holiday. He came about 3 years ago and we played the gift exchange game. He still talks about it his pancake griddle lol.
My husband’s best friend is going through a nasty divorce and the rest of his family lives 1200 miles away. He will probably be with us this Christmas too.

@chyna :-( sorry for your loss, I hope you find some comfort in your brother on Christmas day and create some wonderful new memories xxx

@Judi : I have done a lot of “waifs and strays” holidays, and I love them. We’re very casual,and we have more people at our holiday tables that we’re not related to than people we are related to. I really like it that way.

I’ll be with my parents, but as I’ve gotten used to over the past year, not really around people my own age, which I miss. But after the holidays I go back to college, and I’ll probably be damn sick of people my own age after that. xD

I’m totally okay with celebrating with just my daughter and her boyfriend, a few get togethers with other friends.
I divorced almost 9 years ago now and divorced about 12 other people that made for high stress holidays with a lot of controlling behaviors and major emphasis on presentation, faux “family” narcissistic B.S.
I love being the queen of my own little holiday castle these days.
It’s fun, truly FUN, and no pressure, the way it should be.

I feel for my daughter though, she is at the age now where she is juggling 4 different christmas situations and her grandmother, my ex MIL is an insufferable control freak that insists on running the show.
Can’t say I miss any of that at all. lol

I’ll by visiting my parents and all the relatives and kids and cats and dogs for the upcoming holidays…

I won’t be alone this year. I have been alone many times over Christmastime. I never minded. My circumstances are now different and I will not be alone.

My children will be with me on Christmas Eve but with their father. I’ll be with my wonderful husband all day, but I’ll be missing my kids.

I’ve gotten used to being alone too, but still hope that one day I will meet someone that will change that, maybe I already have? I don’t celebrate Thanksgiving the traditional way, instead as a day of self inquiry. The first year I didn’t celebrate, I ran into some really old friends and made some great new friends, other people that weren’t big on the new traditions. Its a good day to just relax, not worry about all the family stuff and just be thankful. I usually spend every Christmas with my family and love seeing them around that time every year, but before that I’m usually alone and thats when it gets to me, that I wish I had someone close to share these moments. Until then, I’m still enjoying my life and meeting new people. :) Great post Nebule!

no girlfriend, no close friends, not close to my family, kind of a loner who would spend all day reading a good book if he could, and happy about it.

@Mr_Paradox Happy is always good!