Ok, what is the full-stop age?

I am going to say 38. I think that’s the age when I really started to be kind to myself. To not do things because everyone else thought I should. I became a bit more selfish but in a good way.

Interesting question @Blueroses.

19. Still a teen, I became a soldier for life.—After three wars and several operations and campaigns, am still in the service. I feel young, I feel old. I feel like I know nothing and comprehend zilch – I feel wordly and ancient at the same time. I feel new and inexperienced in this world that is but a second in terms of the Universe, I feel old and getting on in years especially when I read things here by youngsters. I am an ancient soul in a 19 year-old’s mind, chronologically middle-aged.

Good question, BR.

38.

Thank you @zensky
precisely what I meant. Frozen at…. because of or despite of life.

elsewhere, 38 is seeming to be the magic number

At 38 you finally are kinda like the person you wanted to be at 19, and relax about it.

And that’s what you want to feel like/be forever?

I think 38 is a great number… people I know have settled into their features and accepted them. Still young, and never old.

But, do you see yourself as 38? I mean, when there are younger or older people around. Do you slip into their age group or are you locked at 38?

My two best friends are 20 years older and 9 years younger than I am. I am always drawn towards the younger and they are drawn to me. So I aim for 30 but I think I’m locked at 17–20. Not in experience but in how I feel.

When you hit the late 30’s, people from 20–80 feel comfortable flirting with you. You can do the stuff you did when you were 20, nobody bats an eye. But you don’t want to do the stupid stuff.

Nice explanation @Imadethisupwithnoforethought. Thank you.

I have to go with 53, personally. At 53, I had been and done almost everything I wanted to be or do, I ran ten miles every other day and worked out with weights on alternate days. 53 was just before my near-fatal parachuting jump and over ten years before I was diagnosed with both diabetes and cancer from Agent Orange. I guess I was what some people call a “late-bloomer,” hitting the top of my form later in life than most people do.

I feel better at 50 than I did at 30. I wouldn’t want to go back to how I felt, back then.

I’m 30 and haven’t hit that point yet. There is still so much I want to see and do and I know those things may change me in some ways and I feel I still have a lot of personal growth I can do. I honestly hope I can enjoy all of my aging as it comes.

For many years my first reaction was to answer 17 when asked my age. That hasn’t happened for a while but I still feel like 17 was when I came to a full understanding of life. I’ve expanded on that understanding since then (thank god lol).

Unfortunately, I seem to have not stopped aging. The older I get, the older I get. What is the secret the rest of you guys have? Maybe I was absent the day they passed out the manual, or the “get out of aging” free card.

On weekends I think I am 6.
That aside, 32.

My mother jokes that she’s still 17. She’s actually 57.

I feel like I’m about 28ish. My birth certificate says I’m 38 though.

I’m with @wundayatta. I haven’t stopped aging . I can add and subtract and read the numbers, but I don’t think of myself as being finished aging. I find I can’t do something as well as I used to and am surprised, but there are always new things that come along to engage me and I forget I’m supposed to be old.

I just turned forty and I don’t feel that way yet. I still feel restless and wake up every day with endless to-do lists floating in my head. I can still be insecure and have a hard time relaxing. I dislike myself quite a bit and, for everything I’ve learned, I still feel like I know so little.

Meanwhile, my joints have begun to ache, I have weight to lose and diabetes to control.

I desperately want to get to a place of contentment and to take care of myself. But I have other people to take care of and feel as though time is running out.

I’m not sure I’ll ever get there.