If a woman really loves her husband would she sign a prenup?

It’s absurd to suggest that “most if not all men want” anything of this nature. Also, wealthy women would be just as smart to suggest it. Love or not, marriage doesn’t come with any guarantees.

@ANef_is_Enuf – I stand corrected, some** men. I live in California and most of the guys I’ve listened to have talked about getting prenups, I wasn’t sure.

I think you can’t generalize about people’s reasons related to pre-nups. One is almost invariably wrong when ascribing motives to others.

I’d have never wanted a pre-nup way back when as a young woman, but now? You bet’cha!
No way would I give up my rights to my money and property now in my 50’s, nor would I expect a man to do the same.

What’s mine is mine and what’s his is his going in, and anything accumulated jointly after that, is ours.

Of course, this is a non-issue for me as I have zero desire to ever re-marry. lol

Wealthy anyone should have their spouse or partner sign a pre-nup. Why should they be entitled to half of everything their So has made prior to their relationship?

I’ve heard about it from both genders and it is usually in slightly older couples where there is a great disparity of wealth or as @Coloma says where each partner brings established assets of their own to the new marriage. I see no reason why there shouldn’t be one; if one partner has an issue with it, it needs to be worked out.

My daughter-in-law was very insistent that I sign a prenuptial agreement before I married my second wife. I told her that since my wife-to-be didn’t care much for motorcycles, a pre-nup was unnecessary! : ))

With over 50% of marriages in the US ending in divorce, I think pre-nups are just a practical way of avoiding fights, should the marriage not work out.

Until you go through the personal and emotional pain of a divorce, you don’t realize how important a prenup is. Also, if you have children, the prenup will ease the burden of litigating custody. Also, California marriage law tends to favor the wife in terms of custody and alimony.

Yes.

Entering into a marriage contract is always be advised, and part of the marriage contract should be a pre-nup. This is true regardless of whether it is the husband or the wife, and a pre-nup should be written to protect both equally.

IMHO, nothing says “I don’t trust you” like a prenuptual. It’s an admission that divorce is always an option.

@CaptainHarley

Eh…it is also an admission of ” I love you enough NOW, to not want to see you suffer, LATER, should things not work out.: ;-)

Many a lover turns into a Vulture when the nest is being divided. lol

LOL @Coloma

All too true. My ex didn’t exactly turn into a “vulture,” but then again, there wasn’t much meat left on the “corpse” either! Heh!

@CaptainHarley
Dem bones, dem bones, dem dry bones….lolol

[ smacks @Coloma up-side da head wid a very large trout ] : D

@CaptainHarley the issue is not about trust. Married couples can grow apart over years, and develop their own individual perceptions about how the balance of the assets (and custody) is. Nothing is worse than when you realize you’re at the end of a marriage and, you now have an adversary in determining what is “fair.”. It happens to the best of pairings…so it’s not about mistrust, so much as it is being realistic and prudent. A prenup is actually a very humane way to say “I love and trust and value you enough now that, if the day ever did come where we were to part ways, then I would want to spare you the emotional harm, hurt feelings, and pain of having to argue and possibly go to court over these issues, and let you live your life.”.

Weird.

And, like it or not, in this country, divorce always is an option.

I speak from experience my friend…divorce is weird, but it happens. The romantic notion of marriage can get sucked into a vacuum in an instant, and you have to not only be prepared, but be compassionate. And if you’re a male head of household in California, I implore you to look at family laws in the case of divorce; and see which side the law favors…there, you will really see “weird.”

Oh I know it happens. My first wife filed for divorce after 36 years of marriage. Fortunately, all of the children were grown.

When I first heard about prenups, I could not imagine why anyone in his or her right mind would ever want to sign one or make somebody sign one. I viewed someone wanting to get his or her to-be spouse to sign one as a sign of disrespect… a sign of distrust… a sign that the person was already planning for divorce, should it ever happen. In that mindset, if I didn’t sign one, NO, it would not have been because I was selfish. It would have been because I DID love my to be husband and I DID trust him. It would be because I NEVER planned on divorcing him.

I had a conversation later with one of my friends about this and he explained to me why signing a prenup is a good idea and how it can actually show the other person that you trust him or her and that that can help love grow even more because it would make it clear that you love him or her for him or her, not for what he or she has. I never really thought about it that way before we had that conversation, but he’s right.

Anyway, the point I am making here is that I think it depends on the person’s intentions…. not the simple fact that he or she does or doesn’t want to sign one.

If my boyfriend and I ever got married (which is unlikely) I would happily sign a pre-nup. He makes a lot more money than I do and, regardless of what happens in the future, I love him enough to respect that he has worked hard to get to where he is.