NSFW (if you want)- When and how did the phrase "So what are you wearing? " become commonplace?

Do we assume that we are not looking at each other or in different rooms or in different states?

Or are you talking about phone sex?

I am wearing jeans, fuzzy slippers, a long-sleeved t-shirt and red cashmere sweater.

Is that not a real answer?

^Real enough answer. Thank you.

I am wearing blue jeans and a tee shirt that says NAVY. I am wearing slippers with soles that conform to the contours of your feet. OK?

Why is this a commonplace phrase and why NSFW?

Tinkerbell jammie bottoms, and long sleeved white shirt with little buttons down the front.
Ponytail.
Yep, I’m dressed like a 4 year girl ready for bed.

@gailcalled It does seem really commonplace in media (tv shows, comics, movies, etc), and it’s often a lead-in to “relations”. Of course, this tends to depend on the answerer saying something like “oh, I’m just lounging around the house in my lacy teddy and stiletto heels”. Or for the more realistic version, “I just got out of the shower, so a towel”.

@Aethelflaed: So, we are talking about phone sex rather than vis-à–vis interaction?

I’m just lounging around the house in my lacy teddy and stilettl heels. Oh. Also a towel, since I just got out of the shower. And Mankini, too.

Oh, and a button down shirt with the sleeves turned up one roll. And jeans. But no underwear. A roll of socks. In my jeans. Yes. Right about there.

I’m just way too sexy for my shirt.

@gailcalled Indeed.

I have no idea.

It definitely came from the awareness of phone sex and cyber sex becoming popular. I think it evolved into a lighthearted joke used for flirting, or, it is still a way to initiate the exchange of fantasies when two people aren’t at the same physical location. It makes sense, we are connected by media almost constantly, and most people like sex in one way or another.
I’m wearing a t-shirt.

I was just about to say but @ANef_is_Enuf got there first, I think this became prevalent with the advent of phone and cyber sex. I suppose asking this question would enhance the visual imagery.

A dress.

Jeans, a plum colored camisole, and a navy fleece cardigan.

I’ve never said it to anyone, in real life, except as a joke. I guess I’m just missing out on great phone sex, is that it? No one says that in real life, do they? Seriously? Am I totally out of it here?

@lillycoyote I’ve had it said to me several times, seemingly seriously. It just makes me giggle, though!

@augustlan It would make me giggle too; seriously giggle. That would kind of ruin the mood, the moment, wouldn’t it? I guess I’m not really cut out for phone or virtual sex, it seems.

@lillycoyote I’ve never been able to successfully do phone sex. It’s just so damn funny!

It is phone sex, could be even one of those sex hotlines. I guess with Skype, we dont have to ask anymore.

snoopy pajamas, beatles T

I became aware of it through Grand Theft Auto IV from that creepy-Russian-guy-you-kill-in-the-fifth-or-so-mission’s phone call. And phone sex seems to be the most recurring answer, so yeah. But me, I’m wearing cold. I’m goddamn frigid over here and I’m not sure why, so I’m just wearing fucktons of warm clothes and blankets and socks.

So, @Imadethisupwithnoforethought, what are you wearing?~

@gailcalled I hear it at least once a week, most often in jest.

I mark things NSFW when I think that people may respond with something inappropriate for work. I cannot control what people may respond with, and it is just as easy to play on the safe side

@ANef_is_Enuf A T-shirt, wool sports jacket, button flies unzipped. Fell asleep on the couch in my clothes.

Can’t give you answer, but, wanted to share:

I called my girlfriend late one night and asked her what she was wearing. She said seductively: corduroys.

We laughed for a good 5 minutes.

I think the question tends to appear in depictions of phone/cyber sex in the media because it lets the audience know what is going on, but is still in very ‘safe’ territory.

And for the record, pink and white floral pyjamas and a fluffy white dressing gown.

Considering the fact that my wife has worn the same basic outfit (black loose dress slacks; long-sleeve button up over a colorful undershirt) every single day for the past fifteen-plus years, I have no need to ask.

As such, jokingly, I’ll ask, “So…are you naked at the moment?”

How would you know what I’m wearing? It’s either:

A. A grey sweater over a purple henley, jeans and two pairs of socks: sock liners and wooly hiking socks. My feet get cold.

B. Just my underoos, but I’m nesting in a space-blanket.

C. Something else entirely.

hint: give it 12 hours and the likelihood of me wearing “C” approaches one.

If you’re going to have phone sex, then you have to enter into a fantasy together. It generally helps if this mutual fantasy is based on something real—something that actually could happen if you were together. So it is a natural question to ask a person what they are wearing and also where they are and what they are seeing right then.

It’s a set—realistic on one hand, imaginary on the other. You hang the plot of your mutual fantasy on that set. It’s not a silly or embarrassing question. It’s an information finding question. Based on that question, you can take any steps you want in the scenario you create.

Phone sex, and this may sound odd, is not about phone sex. If you think that you are having sex on the phone, you’re going to feel ridiculous. However, if you are creating a story you both believe in and you both help create for each other, then it’s easy to imagine yourself actually in the presence of your lover, instead of alone.

You close your eyes and you have your lover’s voice purring in your ear, and hearing “what are you wearing” is not silly at all.