Can someone please help me out with holiday wish list etiquette?

You give what you want to, if they want to return it, it’s their choice. I believe if someone wants something specific, instead of requesting it, they should just go out and buy it themselves.

Well, L, to me, a Christmas Wish list is like ordering something from the menu in a restaurant. If I pay for the menu item, then I am happy with myself.

To me, a wish list is like an order. Asking for this or that may not be within your monetary reach and besides, you already have their gifts.

If it were me, and my family and I did not see eye to eye on many subjects, I would go ahead with the gifts you have purchased.

If I were on you wish list, could I order a brand new Solara? No, you could not afford it and besides, they are not manufactured anymore.

You cannot help that the lists arrived late. They could have emailed you.

Me.

I have never heard of giving someone a holiday gift list. Well, maybe a parent getting a list from a small child. Anyway, did you ask for the list from your family members?

When did a gift become an obligation?

I don’t make a list. To me it kind of takes all the fun out of getting a gift if you’ve pre-selected it. I do know people that make such lists, and I go along with it but will never understand it. I would just tell them the situation, or if you must ask them if diverging from the list is OK.

People give out holiday wish lists? The only person I really tell specifically what I want is my husband, because if I don’t give him suggestions, he’ll waste money on something really weird or pointless that will never get used.

If you’ve already purchased their gifts, I say stick with what you’ve got.

Sometimes I ask my daughter what she would like for Christmas, usually I buy that item but always also give her a selection of other gifts that I want to give her, giving someone a so-called “wish list” when it has not been requested seems the height of presumption to me.

PS. As far as I’m concerned, holiday etiquette be dammed!

A present, a gift is, by definition, something freely given, not something you are obligated to give. It is up to you if you want to return the things you have already bought and get these people what they have asked for, or not. You are not obligated.

Yeah, I’m with @WillWorkForChocolate on this. The idea of a “wish-list” from someone who is not your child and even then, is a rare thing is alien to me. So I guess it’s silly for me to answer, as I think appropriate etiquette would be to be delighted that someone is giving me a gift, and taking time to pick it out.
Essentially, what @Adagio just said. I really should read all the way through before leaping on my high horse…somebody often has said it better!