Have you ever fallen in love with someone you are close with and they have no idea?

She has a boyfriend? Whoa player player! :P Trust me, its only you. I used to dig this girl and even joined a class she was in just to get to know her more. ALL the signs were there. Hanging out, smiling, her coming up to me first, her telling me to wait and lets walk to the next class, etc classic symptoms. It was only me though. She was just genuinely nice. Maybe the sames not for you, but this girl has a boyfriend?! Sounds like some homewrecking on your part, of course longing creates good poetry, you should write about it, maybe one day you’ll feel so silly for this situation. Because I’ve learned as I matured that I was so immature to think of myself in certain situations especially when they have a girlfriend already.

Yeah I have, a really good friend who I was comfortable with confessing my sins to as well as telling about my MPD too. She was comfortable also telling me hers but she was in a relationship which I homewrecked but I didn’t get her as she realized what happened. And then well, what to say? I lost someone I considered to be my best friend because my judgement was too clouded by my own emotions. Hahaha, a nearly decade long crush that went to waste. Sigh, what an idiot I was, am, whatever. I’m glad I finally got my head out of my ass about her, I’m much too unstable anyway to be with her.

You will continue to “read” her as possibly having feeling for you, because that is what you are desperate for.

Meanwhile, she is feeling safe with you as a friend and therefore free to make physical gestures toward you.

You should probably tell her how you feel so that you can know where she stands, and then move on with your life.

If she does not return your feelings (which since she has a boyfriend seems unlikely), it will probably ruin your friendship.

But you will not be able to move on emotionally unless you tell her. Wouldn’t having a relationship with someone who returned your feelings be more satisfying?

@marinelife One could argue that it would be better to be grateful to have the person has a friend at the least. If you don’t want to lose this person completely, I wouldn’t come out. Maybe then your chance will come somewhere down the road.

Yes and it was a near impossible situation because it was a woman I knew had been pursuing me when I didn’t feel the same and later when I did find myself feeling for her then I had to ask myself if I could ever be fair to her enough to commit to a relationship, to be able to live without men as my lovers and feel complete- my answer was no. I felt love but it wouldn’t be enough to be fair, to be on par with her so I never said what I felt. We do grow into wonderful friends, what brought us together fading more to the sidelines than the experiences we’ve shared over time since then.

I had a best friend who I didn’t know was gay. She never mentioned it and I just thought her a tom boy. Even when I did find out she was gay, I had no problem with it. It wasn’t until I figured out she had feelings for me, more than just a friendship that things went south fast. I thought she totally understood me and as such, understood I was only interested in guys. It made me question every thing she ever advised me about guys who were interested in me. Was she really being my friend or was she just trying to keep me to herself? It destroyed our friendship and I was pissed off that she told me. I was especially mad because she acted as if I lead her on when I made it very clear that I only liked boys. It pissed me off that she read more into me being nice to her, like a sister. Looking back, maybe it was because she never had any siblings so she didn’t understand that physical affection for some people is natural and they don’t attach more meaning to it than just being affectionate. IE, hugs, kiss on the cheek or leaning on someone or putting your head on their shoulder.

Eh. My best friend… He just showed back up, after months. It’s weird, because I love him, but I have a boyfriend now… I was trying to move on, and now I don’t know what to do.
Complications, complications…