How do I get back into this particular spirit?

Accept invitations unless you have a conflict. If you get invitations to conflicting events, go to the one you received first (unless it is a a casual event first and you get invited to a formal event like a wedding or family “required attendance” event). Always RSVP, yes or no.

And if you say yo are going to show up, show up unless there is an illness that requires your attention, or a death.

This is all manners, but one of the reasons for manners is to grease the social wheels. It keeps you involved with your community of family and friends, and appreciated as a guest and admired as a person.

And if you show up, they’ll show up to your events.

In life and single, you only have to please yourself.

I believe in being social and shutting off my computer.

Why don’t you join a social networking site (if that’s what you’re talking about here) .. no need to feel like you’re committed though..but it’s a step closer to reaching out to them in their preferred setting. Also, through that you may have better chances of their seeing your invite.

Also, maybe you’re just going to the wrong parties. By that I mean, are you perhaps saying yes because you really want to go, or are you going because they want you to go? Don’t just accept invites to everything because you should focus more on making the best of your life than perhaps pleasing others?

Another option… you can seek out people with common interests.. those who prefer socializing to social networking sites. Or parties of your type.

Lastly- as for the ride aspect. Those people must not be too dependable considering they can’t provide you with a ride home. Perhaps you could call someone to pick you up (if it ends at a decent hour).

p.s. if any of your kids’ birthdays are coming up (since you mentioned it) wish them a happy birthday! If not.. well it didn’t hurt ;)

You have way too much chatter on your brain-I should know. I also know being twice as old as you-I know ish, your mind state is a shadow to your body state. So, my recommendation, just try to eat well for 72 hours and walk first thing in the morning while meditating on your breathing and forget about him or her. Every time they pop up, pop them with your magic dart
Works every time for me, too cold tomorrow for me.

It sounds to me like you are going through a transition in your life, and after seeing your age, it makes sense. Not only are you “outgrowing” your previous lifestyle, sounds like your friends are, too. Things that you used to enjoy aren’t as enjoyable anymore. Don’t try to regress – move forward by finding things that interest you now. Let your relationships with your friends grow, change and mature.

I agree with SKagg….you’re in transition, don’t overanalyze it, it happens to all of us

Join a new group when an idea pops in your head you’re genuinely excited about