Independent children of divorced parents, what about the holidays? (see details)

I’m thinking that maybe if they live in the same city or not all that far away, one could spend Christmas Eve with one parent and Christmas Day with the other?

I just wonder what they do if they maybe live too far away from one or both to do that, or what happens at Thanksgiving. I have no idea what the process would be… seems a conundrum.

The same thing you do when you’re married. You choose.

I always went to my mom’s because my sister and grandpa would also be there. My dad always came to visit on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day. Now that we’re all several states away, we rotate visiting each other.

I’m an adult and my parents are going through a particularly nasty divorce this year. I flew home to Denver, where I grew up, and am staying with my mom. I went to dinner and spent a day with my dad, and then took him to the airport this morning so he can spend the holidays with his sister and her family.

My ex’s parents and mine were all divorced, so we actually had four choices on where to spend each holiday. It was kind of a nightmare, honestly. We simply rotated on a yearly basis, but the parents could never seem to remember whose turn it was to get us, and it caused quite a bit of bickering on occasion. Once we had kids, we stopped all that nonsense, and declared all holidays would be at our house, and everyone was invited. Made life much simpler.

This year I spent the majority of Christmas day with my mum’s side of the family and I will go to my Grandmothers (dad’s mum), where my dad is currently, tomorrow to spend some time with his side of the family. I make sure I see everyone at some point during the holiday season and it usually works out quite nicely.

I rotate. One year it’s Christmas eve with dad and Christmas day with mum, and the next year I switch. EVERY YEAR, the parent who gets Christmas eve gets upset with me. There’s no way to win sometimes.