Please tell me what you know about projection issues.

~I wanted to learn about my projection issues in my university psychology days, but I failed out for unknown reasons having low grades before I got a chance.

For example, I am insecure and feel unworthy; therefore I nag my daughters about their hair, their weight, their posture and belittle their professional or intellectual accomplishments.

Or, my father was emotionally distant and withdrawn. I either…
behave the same way with my children, or..
I smother them with love and affection.

I’ve learned this about myself. The things that annoy me the most about some other people… are traits that I exhibit myself. When I spot it in time, I try to maintain my awareness of that fact and limit my criticism, because it seems (well, it is) hypocritical, and it seems pretty damn stupid when I think back on it later. And I try to be reflective and think back on it.

My family is the evil Gail…...nagging, sarcasm…...

Someone near to me (not giving out too personal details here to not offend her) has BPD. (Borderline Personality Disorder). Very often people with this particular illness will try to project their own feelings onto others. For example, when they are unhappy or feeling bad about themselves they (attempt, and very often succeed from what I can see) attempt to project and create these feelings in others around them.
When this person was having an affair she continuously “projected” unfaithfulness on her husband (at the time)—accusing him of unfaithfulness and hyper-criticizing his normal interactions with others as being sexual or disloyal, etc. The kicker is, of course, that she was the unfaithful one having multiple partners…but she made him feel constantly as if it was he who was unfaithful and not trusthworthy.

The quotation “The lady doth protest too much, methinks.” from Shakespeare’s Hamlet has come to mean that one can “insist so passionately about something not being true that people suspect the opposite of what one is saying.”...I think that neatly summarizes a lot of the sort of projection I’ve seen in the past. So, question the accusations you’re hearing projected onto others when they seem especially vehement..

Just because you don’t understand what projection is, you’re taking your anger out on all of us? WTF?

@6rant6 nooooo, I’m not…...REALLY I AM NOT!

Does it not go hand in hand with deflection?