Did I do the right thing by telling my best friend that her crush and I are seeing each other?

Asked by Roughdraft76 (219

) December 28th, 2011 from iPhone

Recently my best friends crush of 2 years and I have been going out for the past couple of weeks and texting a lot. The crush had already made it clear to my best friend that she only wanted friendship with her. Today I told my BF about us talking and she was really upset, crying and mad. Did I do the right thing? I feel like an asshole BF but I didn’t want to hide it from her.

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I thought you were married and had three kids? No? Your profile and earlier questions belie this one. What’s up?

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chyna (51598

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@gailcalled: split from her over a year ago.

Roughdraft76 (219

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Haven’t been on Fluther in a while. Lol. Probably need to update.

Roughdraft76 (219

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True.

I think that the truth, told in the kindest possible way, trumps everything else. The reality is was it is. Sorry that your BF is unhappy. She will, I hope, calm down in a bit.

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I read this and thought the poster was about 15. Of course you should have told your best friend and it is understandable she is upset. She may or may not get over it.

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I wouldn’t go out with someone my best friend had expressed an interest in. You are right, it is an ass hole thing to do. You probably ruined a friendship over something that might not work out at all.

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