How do you build your boyfriends self esteem?

Self esteem is just as it says, it is his esteem.

A few things however to help would be:

First and foremost, Say “I love you” or “I care about you” often

Ask his advice when making decisions. This shows that you value his opinion and advice.

Make little personal gifts occasionally.

Stop what you are doing when he asks you something. Look at him directly in the eyes during conversation. Pay attention

Make him think he’s a god in bed.

You can’t. Only he can work on it. If he seriously ants to, he might find the book Self Parenting helpful.

Or he could begin working with a therapist.

There is nothing you can do, but encourage him to work on it.

I second what @Blackberry said.
Agree with him. A lot.

Give him at least 1 blowjob per day.

I am with @FutureMemory . Blowjobs really are the secret. not really

If he is not already willing to be happy himself first, there is nothing you can do to make him happy. Nothing. If this is the case, don’t beat yourself up for it. It’s not your fault. It’s his problem, not yours.

If, on the other hand, he is okay with being happy, but needs some encouragement… then open respect for him, open appreciation, genuine compliments, listening to what he has to say, caring about his interests, trusting him, giving him the affection he feels he needs (as long as you want to and it’s reasonable for you to do), and your own open happiness in the relationship could go a long way.

Whatever you do, don’t fake anything. Make sure it’s all genuine.

@judochop I am with @FutureMemory

Hey now…..

Because you already have a child together I would suggest some parenting classes and couples counseling. You may be a good parent and have great intentions, but because your boyfriend is so insecure, you both need assistance.

If you didn’t have a child together, I would have suggested having a good long talk with him about his insecurities are damaging your relationship and ask him what he thinks would be helpful. If he couldn’t come up with anything and continued to be insecure, I would suggest that he is not good boyfriend material and certainly not father material. But since it’s too late for that, counseling is something that can really help, if not solve the problem.

The parenting classes can help both of you to feel more confident and competent in your actions with your child and with each other. The fact that you are willing to go with him will show that you are supporting both of your needs to do the best you can for your child. If you suggest that only he go, then you arwill make it seem like you are perfectly fine and he’s a dunce.

If you plan to stay with him and stick it out, you need a plan of action and part of that plan of action is sitting down with him, in a non-confrontational way and let him know that since you are both now parents, you both need to do more to make sure that your relationship works so that you can be loving, effective parents to your child and being insecure is going to put a damper on that, so you need to step up to the plate and offer suggestions and don’t take no for an answer. But let him offer suggestions too and try them out if they seem feasible or useful. If he is unwilling to take any steps to remedy this problem, you will have the bigger problem of raising your child as a single parent, because you won’t be able to stay with him.

Good luck, please give us an update : )

See if you can get him to talk to a psycharist.

See if you can get him to talk to a PSYCHOLOGIST.

Carol, a psychologist

The rule is, whoever he talks to, you must see improvement in a short period of time.

Psycharists can prescribe medicine if necessary, psychologists can’t. Psycharists went to med school, psychologists didn’t. That is not to say that psychologists are incompetent or not usefull.