What do you think of rushing into marriage and a relationship?

I really doubt you mean nothing to him. Becoming engaged to someone does not necessarily cancel out feelings from previous commitments. If that were the case, we would never hear about people divorcing their spouses and getting together with old flames when they meet again.

As for him getting married, it sounds like he might have gotten engaged simply because he is deploying next month.

As much as it will hurt (at least at first), please get used to the idea of him being married to another woman. The more you get used to that idea, the easier it may be for you to accept.

I’m just glad I’m not in pain. I’m still feeling shocked because I didn’t think this would happen. Just shocked and confusion is what I’m feeling. I have a feeling it might last long because he doesn’t break up when things get really bad unless it’s more. I know that he has no money and that she is rich…and she pays everything for him. I kind of hate how life is unfair…how I gave everything to him and helped him and I always gave…never received. Yet he gets everything his way..

Do you want to be with him? I have other things to say, but I feel like it would be wise for me to know the answer to this before I go into those things.

Sounds like you are still in a little bit of grief over your relationship.

Your human and no matter how rational you are, you still have feelings. It is completely normal to have a feeling of pain when you hear that the man you loved is moving on with someone else.

Simply realize that he is someone elses (problem or not) now. You are ex’s for a reason.

Try to not look back. Focus on your present and future.

Let me repeat this, I’m not in PAIN lol. This is nothing at all compared to when I first found out he was in a relationship. I’m not feeling sadness, just shock and confusion. I will care for him always but I do not want to be with him. Being with him made me 80% sad and 20% happy, he brought out intense emotions in me. It wasn’t healthy but we did bond over 6 years.

It just makes me wonder why he gets everything his way, why doesn’t he get what he deserves? He slacks and he gets a sugar momma that wants to do everything for him. It’s like he doesn’t do anything but everything goes his way.

Alright. Do you not want him to be with someone else? If so, is that fair? I could be completely wrong, but this seems to be a case of “I don’t want him, but I don’t want anybody else to have him, either.”

It sounds like he quite possibly got the hint that you don’t want to be with him and found a woman who returns his affections.

Will it last? Maybe. Maybe not.

From what you said, it sounds like he uses people he can get something from.

@chelle21689 If you are not feeling anything negative about it, then be happy for him! It really is out of your hands and none of your business at this point.

Wish them well!

The negative emotion I’m feeling is a bruised ego is all, lol. Oh well I guess…that’s life. Back then I would’ve been sobbing.

Deployment has a tendency to really up the ante on relationships, and it’s quite common for people to get engaged or even married before they deploy, and then come back and rethink that decision.

Is there a rare possibility that he truly does love her and after being with you for 6 years, he’s found that which he was missing. I know it sounds harsh but I left my spouse because I spoke to my current husband online for a month and I’ve never even seen him and he was married. I was with my previous partner for 7 years, married for 3 (or whatever years, I can’t remember now) and that’s how big of a difference there was in this new relationship, for me.

Your ex is having a rebound fling that is now being taken to the limit of impulsive foolishness.
Rarely do rebounds work out and more often rushing is a red flag for controlling and desperately needy people that want to button down a relationship quickly.
Still, it is what it is and you must find a way to move on. It’s looking pretty sewn up and, as was said above, you need to try to find your closure for your own peace of mind.

It is foolish to rush in almost every scenario that exists.

Is it not obvious why he is marrying her? She may even be pregnant. But pregnancy is the last thing he is probably worried about. I think her bank balance is what urged the decision.

Dang Fluther…Maybe dude is just in love…? After six years of “20% happy and 80% sad” I am pretty sure he has a grasp on what he wants and who he wants.
It just makes me wonder why he gets everything his way, why doesn’t he get what he deserves? He slacks and he gets a sugar momma that wants to do everything for him. It’s like he doesn’t do anything but everything goes his way.
Sounds to me that you are jealous of his situation and that you are playing the poor me card. I understand that it is hard not to do that but you guys split for a reason and he tried to get back with you and you said no…Seems to me that you should be stoked for him since he spent 6 years of his life with you. Hell yeah, he got a sugar mamma that digs him and he is stoked! Sounds like he is happy and you are wondering why? After six years of 20/80 I’d be in nirvana as well if someone played things 80/20 instead.