When Jellies go, why do they go?

I’ve thought about going away, and I do go weeks and months at a time without going on Fluther sometimes (I’m just coming back from one). My incentive is just that I’m trying to cut down my computer time. My computer was dead all summer, and I made great progress in developing habits like reading books, going outside, and talking to human beings face to face. I’m trying not to fall back into my old habits like being on Fluther all day. Nothing personal!

Mad, bored, have other things taking up their time such as family, work or school. Some have been asked to leave. Some choose to leave because they are spending way too much time on the computer. Each person has a personal reason as to why they leave.

I think there are people who are actually curious about what is going on in other people’s heads, or get bored with TV and want some conversation.

Then I think there are people who want to make statements and have people who agree that they are correct.

I imagine the people leave when they don’t get enough validation from people agreeing with their statements.

So you say that I am predictable, he?!
I’m gone ~

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought I don’t agree with what you said. :-)

I’ve stopped using this site before. One of the main reasons I did was because I got bored of it.

A lot of people don’t really go away. They just come back under a new name.

@SavoirFaire If that were to occur, would it be regarded as a sin in the Tidepool? Is there a sort of taboo against this kind of behaviour? Are Jellies not allowed to swim in the shallows on their own terms? Do they owe you and others a sort of loyalty of identity? Just asking. I still feel like I don’t quite understand the rules on this site.

Some people have been banned and that’s why they are gone, some “outliers” get mad at the moderation and leave in a huff and some just get busy with real life. “Nothing gold can stay.”

Because nothing lasts forever.

@tinyfaery So true

@saint No, it has never been against the rules to come back under a second username. I’m just saying that the appearance that lots of people have left may be deceptive.

College, for one.

@SavoirFaire Oh…

I wanted to try other Q&A sites. Some of my past friends eliminated their accounts so that made it a bit rough to stay on here too.

I left to give more time to schoolwork. I came back, changed my name subtly (no more last name floating around), and I’ve considered leaving again. Fluther doesn’t feel the same as it used to, and I don’t have the same connection with other users that I used to, partly because those users left, and partly because I’ve grown up and my tastes have changed. I’ve come across far more answers now where I’ve wanted to write something along the lines of “No, you’re wrong”, and stopped myself, mostly because I don’t know the person. I miss the days where every computer question wasn’t answered with “Take the computer somewhere” or “It’s a virus”, and I miss the days where a nice little quip of encouragement or side joke wouldn’t get modded as “Off-Topic” or “Unhelpful”. I miss the days where @gailcalled could correct someone’s grammar and the person wouldn’t get confrontational. Ultimately, though, Fluther is still Fluther, and I think anybody that leaves because “the site changed” or “the feel is different” isn’t really correct. The users change, and for me, I didn’t leave because the user change, I left because I changed, or was going to change, and I didn’t have the time for Fluther. I came back, but many don’t. Sure, Fluther has changed, but I think, more importantly, my perception of the site has changed, and questions that I used to shrug off now leave a bad taste in my mouth.

Everyone is attracted to Fluther in their own way, and even those that eventually get their panties in a bunch because the moderation is excessive or for other reasons were attracted to the site enough to feel obliged to join. My argument is that if you leave because “the site changed” or, like @Imadethisupwithnoforethought said, because people stop agreeing with them, you’re in the wrong. The site is the same as it was when you joined, but the people who use it, and you yourself are different and no longer mesh as well with the site. To me, that’s why people leave.

Cuttlefish.

It’s very sad.

Cuttlefish. Is that the same as a squid? If so, it is indeed very sad.

I left for a while. I felt like I was going through a phase where my answers were not really contributing to the collective.

Got fed up for some reason or another. Too much work, too much studying. Too much offline life getting in the way, stuff like that. Relationships, addictions, obsessions, new kids in the family, a pet that died. Lots of reasons. They gradually faded away, went to some other online calling. Maybe they just got bored. Perhaps they were really hurt, upset or saddened by some people/answers/questions. Maybe some didn’t have a thick enough skin, perhaps others just didn’t feel it was their place. Maybe they were enlightened, taught or inspired, and used that to pursue their dreams or goals. Maybe they visited me in person and I murdered them. The reasons are very many, and could probbaly never be encompassed into one entire suggestion that would pinpoint a big major reason or answer to this.
I left once, because I had to go for a dump that lasted like two months, imagine that.

Last time I left I was locked up in @Symbeline‘s basement for five months, two weeks and one day. And like she said, it was all that! Too much work. Too much studying. Cancer of the rhinocopod. A shortage of whiskey. Not to mention the rodents. Oh. The horror! Surprisingly, no zombies. Go figure.

Just not enough peanut butter.

As many reasons as there are people. We wish them well, and welcome the new.

I hope @auggie never goes after being fed up with the lot of us. If you ever do join an origami club @augustlan , please don’t leave us!! We promise we’ll behave…

@augustlan is not allowed to leave or she’ll be hog-tied and smacked with her own whip.

I left for a little bit to concentrate on homework, but I’m not in college at the moment because I’ll be moving soon, so I’m just working with nothing else to do.

@wundayatta I lol’d. :D (I mean back when you were trapped, not as of now XD )

I left for a bit to get my head on straight. Fluther had become the extra noise and stress that I couldn’t handle for a few weeks, but I came back as soon as my shook-up brain cells finally fell back into place.

From where I am perched it would appear that for some Fluther is an occupation, for others it is more of a hobby and for some a passing phase… seems entirely natural to have a beginning and an end to one’s relationship here, longer for some, shorter for others. of course I could be barking up the wrong tree completely

@wundayatta – with cuttlefish such as this lurking about, it is no wonder!!!

For me, it actually is an occupation. I’d probably never leave, even if it wasn’t, though. :)

Deployment.

I’ve left a couple of times by my own choice for different reasons each time. But this place is just too addictive to stay away :-p