I have a crush on a guy, should I tell him?
He says I’m one of his best friends and I guess I fell in love with our friendship… he happens to be my very first love and unfortunately, he lives almost 9000 km away, so practically on the other side of the earth. I haven’t seen him for a few months now and I don’t know when I will see him again, only thing I know is that I will see him again one day.
First we were chatting like almost every day and then it got less but we’ve been writing a lot again recently and I’m very happy about that. I’m scared that if I tell him, he doesn’t feel anything like that for me and I’d lose one of my best friends..
he says he misses me a lot and stuff like that :)
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Not yet… if you are wondering if you should tell him, wait until you no longer are wondering anymore.
Too many wonderfully good friendships go ‘poof’ when that line is crossed.
I don’t know how old you are, but I think it is a nice thing to say to a distant friend. But I would word it carefully. I would NOT start off an email with that and then begin to tell him crazy you are for him.
Better to write your normal email, then as a p.s. say “did you know I have a huge crush on you?” and then put a smiley face after that.
It will not be scary to him, it will make him smile. But it will not scare him since you are so far away from each other.
Will you ever see him again? Do you know if you will soon?
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I wouldn’t tell him waste of time.
well, i’m 15
i’m pretty sure i’ll see him again, but i don’t know when.. i hope it’s soon (:
thanks for the great answer :D
The timing does not seem that good. First, it would be good to tell him when you are face to face. Thousands of miles apart and no idea when you will see one another again does not seem like a good time. Second, your respective ages do not bode well for a long-time, long distance relationship. You are both likely to grow and change a lot in the next few years.
Just enjoy it for what it’s worth right now.
The result you’re hoping for is that he’ll reciprocate. That means two of you pining away for someone half a world away. That is not a good outcome.
Better you should be on the lookout for someone even more interesting than this guy. And he should be looking for someone he finds even more interesting than you.
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