Is it okay for me to write about this?

Sure it’s ok. See if you can relate to them and put yourself into their relationship. That’s a good writer.

Go for it.

Despite what some may say, there is nothing that says a straight woman can’t write about gay men, just as I as an older man could write about a young woman falling in love or having sex. The only real problem is if you get it right or not.

What really matters is your character development. It doesn’t matter that you personally don’t have experience being gay so long as you build believable and well developed characters. Of course it wouldn’t hurt to get feedback from others on your writing, but I think that’s best done after you’ve established what you want and have gotten things as far a long as you can without outside help. Getting other people involved too soon can make it harder to realize your vision.

Go for it. You could probably ask here on Fluther if there are any gay men here that would be willing to read and critique things from a gay man’s perspective, to make sure you aren’t missing anything huge.

@Aethelflaed : I’ve tried that and have had my question turned down by the Fluther people… But, yes. I agree.

People write about all kinds of things, why would this be different. There’s already books and movies with all kinds of different relationships.

I don’t see any reason why it wouldn’t be okay. The only snag I see is that people usually recommend sticking to what you know when writing. Your characters may end up a bit unrealistic.

the idea of being a writer is writing about things not based on real life. You, as a straight female can wright as a gay man, the same as I, as a straight man have written about lesbians.

That is unless you believe Anne Rice Burroughs is a vampire….

Why wouldn’t it be okay? There may even be gay men who would be willing to help you out with your story if you want to do some research to make it more realistic!

The reason why people might have a problem is that they don’t know if you can carry it off. Can you write convincingly as a gay man? It’s really an issue of how good a writer you are. If you’re good enough, you’ll make people believe and there will be no problem. If you aren’t good enough, people will think you’re a poseur and will get medieval on your ass!

If you’re ever going to write anything – and I mean anything – with more emotional punch than an operating manual for a toaster, then you have to knock that “What will people think?” asshole off your shoulder. Then kill it and burn it for good measure.

Seriously. Who cares what others might think? Oh, sure, “the buying public” if you’re writing for publication. You have to stand in for “the public” during the creative process and only answer the questions: “Is it believable?” “Is it worth writing at all?” “Is it the best I can do?” and “Does it say what I want?”

Fuck what some might feel on the subject. While we’re in this vein, fuck ‘em in the ass. Then turn them around, face them and tell them to fuck themselves and fuck them again, good and hard.

Here’s a voice to listen to: “I dare you to try.”

Yes, you can write about it. It might be good to talk to some gay friends and ask the questions that you might have (you don’t have t tell them what you are writing about).

I think that it’s fine to write about it, as long as you are not stereo-typing, cruel or patronising. Why not ask your friends – I’m sure they would be pleased to be consulted, so at least your writing will be truthful and honest.