Ladies, do you have a female confidential confidante?

She is a real life angel. A friend I met through the internet about 5 years ago. Through Myspace. We had a lot of things in common. She is much older than me, she’s about 35, and I’m 22 but I consider her my best friend.

I trust her completely with any and everything, things I won’t even tell my own family.

I can go to her without feeling judged, or feeling dumb for asking too many questions about random stuff.

Whenever I need guy advice I go to her. Or when I just need encouragement. She really is an angel. I don’t know where my life would be without her.

Yes. While we have had our rocky patches over the years, my sister and I can talk about anything. I trust 100% that if I asked her not to share what I said, she would honor that request.

I don’t have many people I can completely confide in AND feel completely open and safe, but I can with her. It’s amazing.

I don’t have too many friends I can do that with, but I’m happy I at least have a few friends.

Another lady is a woman is an inspiration to me. We have things in common as well. And she is 35, like my other best friend.

She used to be homeless in Hollywood, living in her car, and now she has 2 master’s and is getting her PH.D from Harvard…... She went from being homeless to now graduating Harvard with a PH.D…... very, very inspiring woman.

I go to her with advice, and I don’t feel judged.

She is completely intelligent, plus compassionate as well.

Sure, my 2 first cousins and my best friend.

My best friend, Vikki. Although, to be honest I still discuss far more with my partner than I do with her.

Uninvited man says: All women have a confidential confidant. The problem is that they all have different confidants.. making nothing a secret.

I have several people (women friends) that I am comfortable confiding in.

Two for sure and a few more I’m comfortable with.

If I wished speak of anything personal and private with the intent that it stay private, then no I don’t have any confidantes. I wouldn’t trust any woman I know to keep it to herself.

I also only talk to my daughter. Simply because I know whatever advice she gives me it will be because she knows us both and love us both. She understands that at times I need to vent and is smart enough to know that it is usually a momentary thing that won’t last. Plus she knows her dad well enough to know that he never purposely intends to get on my wrong side. He simply doesn’t always think things the same way as we do. But she lets me know when I’m wrong and supports me when I’m right. She’s honest with me the same way I am with her. I can’t say that I can trust someone who may have their own issues with either my husband or I to subconciously be honest with their opinions.
And trust me she has no worries about telling us the truth. She knows we will always love her.
Of course there are some things that I will only confide with my husband and not with her. There is still the fine line between parent and young adult that neither her nor I ever want to cross.

My sisters, mostly.

@partyrock You are very lucky to have 2 such people in your life. Most people are lucky to have only one. I’ve had 2 also, but one died and the other had to stop being my friend because she was having severe problems and adding mine to hers was too much for her. I understood, but I miss her.

I really don’t. As far as discussing feelings, yes. As far as discussing anything and everything, no. I have more male friends who are confidents. I find it easier to maintain relationships with men. Men are low maintenance. Not even my sisters (of which I have a few!)
are my confidents.

Yes, I have a few friends I can do this with. Although, my husband is my very very closest friend and confidant. My sister used to be one of these people, but that has changed in recent years. My mom tells me some things, but not everything, and probably it would be better if she told me less. I feel like I could tell my mom anything, and it would be kept a secret, but I think some things would be too much of a burden to her as my mother, and vice versa.

yes, one. Maybe two.

My best friend, and then there’s my husband. Male or female doesn’t really matter to me.

Unfortunately not, I tend to keep my feelings to myself. I’ve learned that, growing up in a family that doesn’t really talk to each other in that kind of way. It’s very hard for some people to open up.

I have my younger sister and my best friend. I know how lucky I am to have them too.

In college, yes, I had a number of confidantes but over the last 6 years, I pulled away from everyone. I didn’t want to overwhelm everyone else with what I was going through so nobody really knew, except my mom.

I can tell my mom almost everything—her support comes in the form of being there for me because her responses are not always advice I can follow.

No. I have about two close (female) friends, and I suppose I probably could potentially trust them with most (if not all) things, but I don’t tend to share. My mother is trustworthy as well and has the best of intentions, but is far too judgmental/unnecessarily defensive/argumentative when it comes to a variety of things.