Worried about future miscarriages?

Consult a physician.

I am sorry to hear about these experiences, very hard to deal with…You should check if there’s an underlying physical issue asap.

My mother had two miscarriages before I was born. She went on to have four more healthy children.

Talk to your OB/GYN about the stillborn baby and the miscarriage that you have had. Ask what precautions you should take.

It sounds like you do get pregnant. Miscarriages are very common in the first three months. Estimates are 1 and 5 known pregnancies miscarry, the stat is even more often if you include unknown pregnancies. Still born is likely a totally different situation than your miscarriage. You would know better the circumstances of each situation of course.

If you have been having unprotected sex and have not become pregnant again, then I would worry you are having trouble becoming pregnant, but if you have been using some form of birth control, even rhythm or withdrawal, I don’t think you need to worry about being able to become pregnant.

You could consult a physician for some fertility tests. Reproductive endocrinologists check all the hormones and they are the fertility experts, but it doesn’t necessarily sound to me like you are at the point to consult with one. Your GYN can do some basic tests, but I would think if anything was obvious it would have been seen on ultrasound already from past pregnancies.

Also, if you get tests now, things might change by the time you get through with college, so you might want to wait until you are ready to try getting pregnant again.

Some basic tests to do would be make sure your thyroid is normal next time you are at the doctor, simple blood test, and if you become pregnant in the meantime by accident they should check your progesterone, not just HCG, thyroid, and take a baby aspirin every day. You could also consider finding a GYN who works with high risk pregnancies.

This is not something to freak out about. Infertility is something that many people face and usually they see a doctor or a number of doctors. It’s a process. One step at a time. If you do have trouble getting pregnant or staying pregnant there are many things you can try.

People who are highly motivated usually end up with children. I could tell you about the battle that my wife and I went through, but that would take a long time and the end result was that we got two children who were biologically related to both of us. They are wonderful kids and it was all worth it.

Besides a good physical I would check to make sure I’m not low on any vitamins or minerals needed for a healthy pregnancy. I remember reading something some years ago about zinc deficiencies being linked to miscarriages. I don’t think it would hurt to make sure he is equally healthy and is producing healthy strong sperms. I know of a guy who had and accident and was told by doctors that he would likely not be able to reproduce. His wife got pregnant twice. Doctors where surprise she ever got pregnant because he had very low sperm count. (before you ask, they both look exactly like him)
But it is common in first pregnancies.

When my wife was born, she was premature (6 months).
During my wife’s first marriage, she had a premature birth (7½ months) and a miscarrage (at 4½ months).
After we married, she had a miscarrage (2½ months) and 2 premature births (7½ months and 7 months). The 7½ month required her being bedridden for the last 2 months of her pregnancy.
Doctors have a lot of tricks and skills to delay a birth. See a doctor when the time is right.
And don’t freak out.

It’s easy to say, but more difficult to put into action: Let Go of the Worry

Seriously, I was infertile. It took us three years, but we have a child now. We finally got pregnant days after we decided to just let our concern over it all go.