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Does alcohol really bring out your true feelings?

Asked by aniihCxx (40points) January 25th, 2012

This guy told me the other day that he thought that he was “in love” with me but i don’t think he is cause we don’t ever spend time with each other like that.
I feel like he’s just saying that just to make me happy.., he said he was drunk and that that’s how he really feels about me, but he’s afraid to be in a relationship with me for whatever reason I don’t know….

Also my ex, when we were together, he would get drunk and start calling me names and say a whole bunch of stupid stuff. and the next day he would tell me it was because he was drunk, BUT this one time he wasn’t drunk and I had pissed him off again somehow and he started lashing out on me???
So….. I’m confused

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JLeslie's avatar

Stop hanging around drunk people. What people say when they are drunk means nothing in my opinion.

aniihCxx's avatar

They text me saying that stuff

auhsojsa's avatar

No, it only makes you braver. The thoughts only become conveyed easily when drunk.

Pandora's avatar

There are happy drunks and mean drunks. I think if a person only has a drink or two (not hard liquor) they may let there guard down and say what is truly on their mind. However, I don’t think you can really believe what a drunk is saying to be true. I once put my husband in a cold shower when he came home drunk. As he sat there freezing he was saying how wonderful and kind I was for taking such good care of him.
The next morning he remembered and hardly thought I was so kind or wonderful. LOL
I’m pretty sure his opinions when he was sober was how he really felt.

Blueroses's avatar

OK. Easy answer is drunk-is-drunk, quit hanging around drunks. You’re going to hear a lot of that. Welcome to Fluther.

Yes. Sometimes people will say things when they are relaxed, that they won’t say when they’re sober. Is that confession real? Sometimes.

Judge it by how they act sober. You very well might be getting the hidden feelings that s/he was too shy to say.

Then again, you might have a drink/slut who loves everybody when s/he’s drunk.

MissRosie81's avatar

I think some people use alcohol as an excuse to act in a certain way or say certain things that they would not do or say while sober.
I only accept exclamations of love as valid if they are done so while both parties are sober.
Call him out on it. :)

Pandora's avatar

I agree with @MissRosie81 If a person knows they are a mean drunk and still continues to drink and do horrible things to people they claim to love, than you have to wonder why do they drink. The only conclusion is that they want to use it as an excuse to be mean to someone they truly don’t like, or they are just alcoholics looking to blame anyone they can for their own failures in life.

marmoset's avatar

Alcohol lowers inhibitions. That’s universal—true for everybody. Beyond that, responses to it are different from person to person. I agree with MissRosie that relationship stuff should be talked about when you’re both sober. :)

aniihCxx's avatar

thanks everyone!!!! =]

stardust's avatar

I agree that it depends on the person. It’s not necessarily truth potion but it certainly does give some people that extra bit of courage they feel they need to speak up about something.
Either way, what’s talked about drunk should be talked about sober in any relationship :-)

Nullo's avatar

Wine loosens the tongue, true enough, but also impairs the brain. You could be getting the unspeakable truth, or just whatever happened to be in the ‘studio’ at the time.

janbb's avatar

It affects different people differently. Some get belligerent, some get mushy. I wouldn’t give anything someone said while drunk much creedence, unless they repeated it while sober although the saying is “in vino veritas.”

digitalimpression's avatar

The effects of alcohol in relation to honesty cannot be accurately measured. It differs by the person. It’s true that a large number of people become their true inner selves when they lose their sober inhibitions.. however, it isn’t a de facto solution. It would be far better to just speak with them when they are sober.

EverRose11's avatar

Welcome to Fluther. ! Don’t listen to someone who s drunk they more often than not ,can not even focus to see who the are talking too let know know what they are talking about! More often then not lips are just loose when drunk , and so are their minds.

Jude's avatar

“Yes. Sometimes people will say things when they are relaxed, that they won’t say when they’re sober. Is that confession real? Sometimes.”

I resemble that remark.

“Beyond that, responses to it are different from person to person. I agree with MissRosie that relationship stuff should be talked about when you’re both sober. :)”

Yup, I agree there.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Being drunk can make it feel more comfortable to emote but that doesn’t mean there is deep thought behind that emoting.

bob_'s avatar

There’s a saying in Spanish: “children and drunks tell the truth”.

allfactshere's avatar

In my own experience when im drunk i can say what i want to say.

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