Fuck ‘em if the can’t take a joke. I’ve been caught out a lot, too. I’ve not recognized sarcasm. It’s ok. I’m not the dimmest bulb in the chandelier, but I’m not the brightest, either. Sometimes I burn out, too, and have to be replaced. I do enjoy those mind transplants….. not!
Sarcasm must be absurd, but it is amazing how many people will find what I think is absurd to be believable. I tend to try to make my sarcasm a little more obvious, now.
An answer is an answer. Some answers work for me and others don’t. Sometimes I am inspired to be sarcastic, and other times serious. The same is true for others. It is a function of mood, humor, and intellect. Probably phase of the moon, too.
So I can’t answer your question. What is best for me depends on so many intangible factors. I am glad there are all kinds of people out there who provide all different kinds of answers. Some of them I skip. Some I read intently. Some I make fun of. Some I respond to with as much thought as I can muster. Some I research. Some are so incomprehensible that I have no idea what to say.
So fuck ‘em if they can’t take a joke. It mostly shows me they don’t get me, and if you don’t get me, then there’s not much point in talking to you, is there? Unless you take a little responsibility and try to be constructive instead of complaining or teasing or being mean to me.
My rule is that I give people back what I get from them. If I think someone is mean, then I am mean back to them. It’s based on a game theory called “tit for tat.” It is supposed to be the most effective technique. But I only do this when I care about an answer, or I feel in the mood for a tussle. I never take my battles seriously. It’s just for shits and giggles as people here are wont to say. Some people will get all prickly and I need only say the barest little thing. So I do, and let them go off on their own rants. I figure I’m performing a public service by letting people get angry, if that’s what they want to do.
I never get angry. I may look angry, but I’m not. It’s just part of the message.
I recommend you look at sarcasm that way, too. Don’t take it personally. It’s just a strategy for conveying some message. Whatever the message is, it’s hardly worth getting upset about—unless you enjoy being upset. But realize, if you get upset, most likely you are just doing exactly what the person wanted you to do.