Yes, I am blaming religion. No, I don’t have a solution. These are just my thoughts, which are somewhat extreme; read them at your own risk.
The notion that homosexuality is sinful and wrong is undeniably tied with the notion that it should be hated, bullied, and killed. I’m sorry, but that is the cold hard truth. It doesn’t matter how much people try and say that they “love the sinner”, that might be the ideal, but that is not how many people interpret it. Many people interpret any kind of negative view of homosexuality as excuse to hate, bully, and kill. And this is where the problem lies. People have a holy text that seems to support their hatred. Is there any part of the Bible that indicates being black is wrong? That’s it’s perverted and sinful? That it’s a choice? That those who are black should be put to death?
No, it doesn’t.
But there is plenty of negative material against homosexuality in the Bible. Racists can’t justify their racism using religion the way homophobes can justify their homophobia. Again, I am not saying this is the way to understand the Bible. There are many gay Christians and pro-gay Christians. I am just saying that this is one interpretation and a common one at that. These examples from Minnesota illustrate that this is what people are doing; whether they are wrong or right isn’t the question. But if these people believe that their homophobia is sanctioned by a higher power, what’s going to stop them?
These so-called “Family” organizations (“family” is code for anti-gay; Focus on the Anti-Gay, American Anti-Gay Association. You see the word “family”—it means anti-gay. So they can cut the bullshit with their stupid appeal-to-emotion name); these organizations are adding to the hatred. Maybe they don’t stress outright that bullying or hatred is okay, but their constant messages of negativity, perversion, disgust, surrounding homosexuality add to it. If you are taught time and time again how wrong/disgusting/perverted homosexuality is, how can it be easy to not also feel that way about the person? “Love the sinner, hate the sin” is the biggest crock of horse shit I’ve heard in a long time. If you hate the sin that much, it’s almost impossible not to the hate the sinner along with it. A lot of these religious anti-gay people seem to be doing just that.
Think of how hysterical you’d get if you knew there was a pedophile in your school. You’d probably want to castrate the son-of-a-bitch, right? That’s how people seem to be feeling about homosexuality; for them, there’s no difference. It’s radically disgusting and needs to be eliminated.
Now, I can’t say I fully understand this myself. I know “kids are cruel” and I know that they believe in some way that it’s their moral imperative to make homosexual kids’ lives a living hell (I have met “Christians” who thought that anti-gay bullying was positive because it showed the negative consequences for choosing homosexuality), but the hatred is so strong that I don’t even think I could hate a serial killer as much as these kids hate homosexuals. The kids seem to take it to an extreme. Maybe the adults just think homosexuality is disgusting and shouldn’t be tolerated or discussed, but they wouldn’t go so far as to say bullying is okay. But the kids seem to think they have a license to bully, as if homosexuals are subhuman and deserve to be treated that way. Again, I don’t have a solution to the hatred—I’m just trying to understand why it occurs.