Ever felt a connection with someone and you're not entirely sure why that is?

Sure. All my friendships are based on feeling that connection. These are the people that I believe I can go without seeing for long periods of time we live in different parts of the country and I’ll still have a great conversation with them when we do get together.

Yes, sometimes right away.

Daphne

Yes. That’s it precisely. I have several friends like that. Even if we are separated by great distance and time, when we reconnect it’s as if we’ve never been apart and we catch up quickly because the connection has never been truly severed regardless of how long or how far.

I can’t prove it, of course, but I don’t think reincarnation is all that unlikely. Certain circles (or familiea) of souls keep reconnecting over the ages altho in different genders, ages, relationship parameters etc. That recognition persists.

That comfort and friendship is always there. Some may manifest romantically as well sometimes. Other times platonic deep friendships.

Just my personal viewpoint as a possibility. But not unique to me at all. Orhers have written of similar.

Yep, and I miss those folks back on the East Coast.

Well in biological anthropology I learned the reason for this is because you either want to have sex with them or not. Right away we can determine whether or not we would ever have sex with someone.

In this case, I have no interest in knocking boots.

@Jude Are you single?

No, very much taken.

It is a platonic connection that I have with this particular person (friend). Nothing sexual at all

@Jude Sorry I didn’t word my first response correctly. I didn’t mean it as a way that you definitely want to have sex. I meant it in a way that by nature, we tend to know right away whether someone is friend or foe and it’s all sexually triggered. But it is indeed interesting to me that when asked, “Are you single?” you assumed I was referring to you being you are sexually attracted to this person. I gather he is male?

@auhsojsa I am very much a lesbian and the friend is a bisexual female.

@Jude That’s interesting. I think you are attracted to this persons soul.

@auhsojsa, you seme to have misinterpreted what @Jude is asking.

I think most people have experienced what Jude is expressing. It’s like going to kindergarten for the first day, or starting a job, or moving into a dorm in college. You meet someone, and for an unknown reason you become instant friends. it’s not sexual, just some identity with the other person that seems to bond you right away.

^^You got it.

I have experienced this a lot @Jude. Most recently with another mom of an Aspie. Amazingly, my son & her daughter have become instant friends.
It seems meant to be.

What is that connection? I’ve had it numerous times with animals.

I believe in the divine. To me, I don’t question it. It seems that our meeting was predestined.

But then again, I’m one of those crazy jellies that doesn’t believe in coincidence, either ;)

Many times and a few real friendships have started out that way. One of my best gf’s and I were at the same broker sign up one year and we each were drawn to each other, out of near 100 people. We were almost the last people to leave, each of us hanging outside by our cars, each trying to find some excuse to approach the other without seeming creepy or awkward. Six years later we are great friends who have shared some of our most important events together.

Friends are the family you choose!

Yes, but sometimes I think it hormonal and body gestures. I only have really ever felt connected with a few people in my life. My husband, children, and siblings and dad, (mom when I was younger). Outside of my own family I may have had one friend and many children or animals that I felt that way towards and it seemed they felt the same. There are some children who seemed drawn to me and I to them, when I worked in daycare. Some that I felt needed my attention more than others. Even if they fussed with me a lot at first. I use to always have relatives tell me I should have had more children because they just all look like they belong in my arms.
But going back. I think we all give off a hormonal scent that attracts those who would be drawn to it and if they also have a scent that will draw us than we feel that sense of connection.
Of course body language will also draw or repel us. And the ultimate attraction is what is said verbally.
People always say that animals have a good sense of who is bad or good. I think its true to a certain degree. They can smell our hormones better than most, and our body language tells them if we are anxious, (which makes them anxious), indifferent or even possibly hostile or friendly.