How can I improve my success with women?

There’s really no substitute for confidence and/or money.

Money. Lot’s of Money.

Your personality is going to have to do a 180 degree turnaround.

Always wear a smile.

Be generous with the compliments. It can be about their hairstyle, lipstick color, or the clothes they are wearing. This usually opens the door to a great conversation.

Put your shyness in a can and place it in a corner somewhere. You have to be seen and heard.

Dress in updated, suitable clothing for the appropriate occasion.Be a sharp dresser.

Always think ahead and be prepared to handle any conversation. Know a little about a lot of subjects. Do not show your stupidity.

Make sure you wear some after shave lotion and never have bad breath. That is an instant turnoff.

Having money is not everything, but it helps. Wife and I were poor as Joes turkey, when we were first married. Our love kept us together.

The rest is up to you.

My only advice is ask lots of questions (not to the point of minutia). People love to talk about themselves. Give them that opportunity.

And it helps to actually be interested. I already know everything about me. I want to learn about you.

Express genuine interest in a woman, and she will respond. Invite someone you find attractive to have coffee with you. Ask her about herself (where she’s from; what she’s majoring in). Discuss classes you have in common. Discuss studying, movies, books, music.

On a more serious note than my first answer.. I agree 100% with @johnpowell and @marinelife . Learning this lesson came early on for me. Human beings love to talk about themselves. So when they find someone that is willing to be a catalyst for more conversation about themselves it is always good. When you express interest, genuinely laugh at things they say that are funny, and become invested in who they are rather than who you are it sort of…. validates who they are .. making them more comfortable and sometimes without even knowing it.. making them become attracted to someone.

One thing I have discovered in my vast years of relationship experience is that the ” opposites attract” mantra is usually NOT a good blend. I am a very extroverted woman, outspoken, playful, humorous to a fault and for me, the quieter men just don’t launch my rocket and I always end up feeling like my energy is overwhelming to them. I am not obnoxious, overly loud, and am very skilled at conversation, but I have a relentless mental energy and finding a complementary personality style is really important.
I have one male friend ( ex lover ) that is a perfect fit, being a high energy, insatiably curious and brainiac thinker like myself.
Extroverts has issues too. lol

I’d suggest seeking out the quieter girls for a best chance blend.
Truly, I think finding those that are similar to ourselves is the key to good communication and best chance of a good fit.

First of all, it’s not about money. I am a girl and money has no effect on me ever. You don’t have to be rich to attract women, at least not the good ones. There might be some women who just want money, but are they really what you want?

You don’t have to talk and talk and talk. Personally I don’t like guys who only seek attention. The mysterious type works better for me. So you can be quiet, but still look confident. And then smile to a girl you like and there’s a big chance she will notice you. That’s a good start.

@eiram Bollox. I really don’t believe you.

@ragingloli for me it’s the correct grammar that does it more than the money!

Practice talking to everybody! Cafeteria workers, professors, people using the laundry room at the same time. It’ll be way easier to talk to girls and make it happen if you’re generally used to chatting with people!

@digitalimpression Why don’t you believe me?

Yes, for a more reserved or quiet guy trying to find a woman can be one of the most harrowing experiences indeed, thanks to social gender constructs that designate the man as the pursuer/hunter and the woman as the prize/trophy. What is especially astonishing here is the fact that many traditionalists try to use the behaviors of lower animals to justify how humans should behave.

The best advice I can give you here as a quiet guy myself with reasonable success with women is to attract them to yourself by taking part in something that takes your interest away from the women around you. I have found that when women see that you’re interested in something that does not involve them, and if they feel that you’re worthwhile, they tend to try to win you over. However women aren’t stupid so make sure your alternative interest/s are really legit and not a facade. Another piece of advice I can give you is to try to surround yourself with like minded people since being in a comfort zone helps to build an attractive aura around yourself.

Quiet guys unfortunately have very limited options but they are there. I wouldn’t suggest listening to the majority of self-help dating drabble out there which tells type B guys to just be more like type A guys because when you do that you’re actually lowering your own value and inevitably your own self-esteem. I also do not believe that opposites attract when it comes to human personalities since afterall human personality traits and emotions are not comparible to the fixed laws of physics. Only until the gradual death of expected rigid gender behavior expectations regarding dating and emotional issues quiet and introverted guys will have to try to cope in type A kind of guy world.