[NSFW] For guys (men) in long term relationships. How far back in the day does foreplay go for you?

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I am unsure what you mean by your phrase “how far back in the day”? Do you mean it like “back in the day” we thought foreplay was pushing a girl on the swingset. or did you mean Back earlier in the day I awoke her with little soft kisses in that little spot next to her…....

Every interaction should be a form of foreplay.

It can start as early as the morning time. A sly look, her making me coffee, an oogling or two…

I then go to work and think about her all day.. when I get home…..

I am not a guy but I like foreplay to start as early as possible in the day and to go on for as long as possible. It can be an all-day-event for me actually.

@Bellatrix Thats actually my point. In most stuff you read a girl can go a long time with flirtatious foreplay that can even go for days, at least according to articles on what women want. So it got me wondering, if guys enjoy the same amount or foreplay without having to close the deal.

@Pandora absolutely

@digitalimpression So do you ever initiate a little fun without really needing to close the deal?

@Pandora Absolutely. It could be foreplay for the next day! =)

<taking notes… curious what men think their women should consider foreplay>

I am not in a long term relationship right now but foreplay usually starts hours prior to sex.

The best example I can give is I was introduced socially to a woman. We spoke for a few minutes about the weather while our friends continued to chat. She rubbed some lip balm on her lips and said “Would you like some? It’s strawberry.” I said, “Don’t ruin the surprise for me.”

<sitting next to Ela…and dreaming>

@digitalimpression So one day is your limit? So if she’s on her cycle, do you just sit in front of the tv or go out avoiding any flirtation until you feel she can deliver?

Oh yes, the fine art of seductive foreplay should be hours and hours in coming. Shhhh…“coming”, not cumming. lol THAT comes later, much later. Foreplay should be savored like fine wine, one sip at a time, swish and breathe and huff and swallow. lol

to me it could be as subtle as a smile, a touch, an endearing act. dancing spontaneously, little notes, etc.
Anything to create or keep the thoughts and wonder and intrigue. It does not have to be a physical action either. Sharing thoughts, poems, music. It could be simply getting dressed in view of your SO. As you button your shirt up while still in your boxers, or a playful brushing up to each other as you pass in the hall.
The longer and more played out, the better. It can also be something you are not even consciously aware you are doing. It all about creating the sense and sensations to allow it to linger.

For women, foreplay can be washing the dishes… it can be enhanced by the way you handle the dish washing mop.

<hehe Spatzie… We can always dream, can’t we? In the meantime let’s have some wine and sneak a listen on how these guys foreplay their women>

<—totally curious as to what @creative one is writing lol

<——-suspects @creative one has swooned

It really depends on the relationship. In some ways, every interaction is foreplay. It can go on and on for days and weeks and months, depending on your availability to each other. It’s all ambiguous, which is a major part of its charm. Will she or won’t she? You never know for sure until it happens.

I’m starting to think that the guys aren’t getting it. Yes, washing the dishes and cooking is sweet, but not really sexy, unless your guy has a 8 pack and no chest hair. Don’t get me wrong, I like chest hair, just no where near my food. LOL
But its the little things that a guy can do that can (at least for me) rock our world. If I just got up and we are both working on breakfast and he sniffs me and asks me if I’m wearing perfume and I’m not.
Or we are watching tv, and I lay my head on his lap and I get up because I figure he is feeling uncomfortable and he pulls me back and says don’t go.
Or just getting up in the morning he leans in and hold me close and kisses my neck and takes in a deep breath.
Things like this. Things that say, I want you close to me but its not always about the sex.

@creative1 Just to let you know, there seems to be a lot of anticipation over your cumming, I mean coming post. No pressure.LOL

I think @creative1 fell asleep

She’s probably getting foreplayed senseless…...
Kiss me till I’m drunk and all that good stuff ; )

@creative1’s 1001 foreplay tips for Fluther men.

I can see it now.

I think she is leading by example. I know I am going crazy wanting her to answer.

@Bellatrix , Yes, I see it too..
Be patient grasshopper!
Luckily, being female, I can go to sleep with or without an answer. :)

All this talk of foreplay is making me frisky!! But unlike everyone here, I don’t have a SO to frisk… so…
I can go to sleep with or without an answer too : )

I just ordered pizza. I will be up awhile.

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought, I’m going to bed. Have a good night and enjoy your pizza.

@Creative1 has been crafting a response for over 15 minutes now.
Is it live or is it memorex??

I’m just dying to know.

OMG…....an hour later and @creative1 is still crafting….........

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I’ve been married 24 years. We don’t do any of that stuff any more, and cooking is just cooking.

My first proper girlfriend enjoyed me going down on her as soon as we woke up, you could say I woke up at the crack of Dawn…..for that was her name as I recall, or maybe I just made that up for comic effect.

One thing that seems to make her happy is making little jokes. Especially if they have a little hint of je ne sais quoi about them.

In a way it’s a bit ridiculous.

@Pandora Um. No. One day is not the limit. “It could be foreplay for the next day!”

@digitalimpression LOL, you kill me! :D

@Pandora I do? Why is that?

@digitalimpression 1 day. So typical of a guy. I could foreplay at least for 3 to 5 days.

@Pandora I’ll see your 3–5 days and raise you 2 ; )
Personally, I wouldn’t make a day. I’d have to seal the deal with a vengeance! I’m so weak <hangs head in shame>

@Pandora Why do you keep saying “1 day” over and over again as if I’ve in any way implied that there was a 1 day limit? Are you just doing it to mess with my head?

Just to revisit this topic, cuz it’s an interesting question: I believe that the longer you know someone, the better the foreplay can potentially be. If they’ve proven to you that they are kind, caring, funny, or any number of other traits that you find alluring, and they’ve done so on a consistent basis, it will take less to start the chain reaction.

Everything could be in some small part considered foreplay. E.G. When I come home from work and the house is spotless and there is dinner hot and ready on the stove I am ecstatic! I may be exhausted from work, but after eating, going to bed, and waking up refreshed the next morning, the memory of the dinner and the clean house the night before is still in my mind.

(And no, I don’t expect my wife to be the 50’s housewife who cooks and cleans. We’ve both taken our turn doing that. When she was working, I was cooking and cleaning. I just happen to be the one working.)

Its my fault for not being clear. But what I’m trying to get to is about being romantic and seductive. When people are first dating, sealing the deal isn’t always an option everyday. So anticipation can go for a few days till you think you burst. I think women can deal with this anticipation a bit better than men. So even after marriage a woman can take being blown off so long as they feel the interest is still there but a guy doesn’t make a run at things unless he knows for sure he can collect by the end of the day.

@Pandora
I’ll grant you that much. Everything seems to take longer with women. Whether it’s shopping, talking, or fore-play.

Joke. Australian foreplay (apologies to all Aussies reading this… An Aussie told me the joke though!).

Swift elbow to the ribs of sleeping partner…

“You awake?”

@digitalimpression LOL, I never linked it with those other things. Your right. Even guys who like to shop won’t just go window shopping. They have to come home with a purchase, and they won’t engage in a long conversation unless there is a purpose behind it.
That certainly clears up a lot.

Oh for Christ’s sake! If you’re in a relationship where you don’t see each other very often—say once every two or three months, then “foreplay” can easily go that long. Easily.

Oh for Christ’s sake @wundayatta! IMO foreplay can go on for as long as you choose no matter how often you see each other. If both people are responsive and take an active part in it, foreplay can be as subtle as a look (such as a slow glance over with a slight smile).
It’s totally up to the people involved what it entails and how long it continues.

@Bellatrix I had no idea my ex was an Aussie… ; )

LOL@ Ela… mine present is but he wouldn’t dare…

@EnchantingEla I’ll see your raise to 7 days and bump it to 2 months.

@blueiiznh I’ll match your 2 months and re-raise you 6. Or you all in? ; )
Let’s see what’cha got… Who says a honeymoon has to ever end?

I’m in.

Ditto.

i have a year supply of strawberries, whatcha got

eleven month supply of whipped cream and an overactive imagination…