Are we all self decievers?

Wow, I disagree.
P.S. – Question 2 makes me really sad. If anybody knows someone who was raped or was raped themselves then they know it’s not something you want to happen. =[

Nope. Crazy talk. I’m going to deceive myself and say no we’re not self deceivers. Most certainly not for those reasons.

I prefer not to think about it.

Apparently i’m not very deceptive to myself at all, according to that little question thingy.

I don’t know what the rest of you saw, but to me those weren’t yes/no answers on the questionnaire….....but then, maybe I’m just fooling myself to rationalise my answers?

I know they weren’t. I just took it as bottom half = no, top half = yes.

Well in that case I did have a couple of “no’s”, but admittedly no absolute “no’s” (what a negative statement).

I think people do deceive themselves about themselves to different degrees.

I also think answering no to any one of those questions does not prove anything. I am 100% positive I have never wanted to rape someone or be raped. I am also 100% positive I am not deluding myself about that.

Further, I am 100% positive that there is no way every other person in the world has either wanted to be a rapist or a rape victim.

Frankly, I think that one question throws the validity of the entire study into the questionable arena.

Its a statement from your Id. It doesn’t mean that you would. Not in the least. It means that the most raw and primal part of you thinks of it.

It could also depend on definition. If you say it’s sex without mutual consent, then wouldn’t wanting to have sex with someone who’s rejected you constitute wanting to rape? Of course to make it more digestible to ourselves we’ll present it as wishing they’d change their mind…..

To me the question is about the sexual power dynamic- whether you’ve ever wanted to dominate or be dominated. They’re using the term “rape” as an easy way to frame the question in a way that people will respond to.

On-topic: I’m constantly trying to deceive myself, but it doesn’t always work. Sometimes it’s kind of necessary- I hate my job, but I deceive myself into thinking that it’s not so bad so I can make it to work every day. That’s just one example, but stuff like that constantly goes on in people’s heads. It’s part of being human and living in a complex society with lots of conflicting rules and messages. It does go in degrees though. Some people I’ve met know themselves much better than others.

Who doesn’t enjoy a good BM?

Um…did I miss the part where a Likert-like scale became a yes/no survey?