How can this issue regarding a search for a sub-leaser be resolved, or helped?
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February 27th, 2012
I’m going to try to make this short because I need help urgently.
I live in a 3 bedroom apartment. Until a week ago, I lived in one room, my boyfriend (who I used to share a room with but is now my ex), lived in the other, and we had a 3rd roommate. Me and the 3rd roommate Joe are still in place but my boyfriend, upon returning to the states from a month and a half long trip abroad, decided he was going to move back to new jersey and move in with his mother. So, he’s looking for someone to sublet his room. No big deal, right?
Well here’s the thing. It’s a college town and I don’t want some brainless dope as a roommate. Still normal, right? My ex is in a huge rush to find someone by the end of the month so he doesn’t have to pay any more rent, but he’s only found one person who is still in contact with us and didn’t flake out. This kid seems like the biggest dope…I told him I was from Pennsylvania and he said “Wait where is that?” REALLY? IF THERES ONE THING I HATE ITS A LACK OF COMMON SENSE. He also only has a job because his mom got him one. What? The upsetting part is that my ex knows this but is being a big DICK about it and trying to tell me it’s not a big deal, and he should just move in anyhow. I also know that he’s only saying this because he doesn’t have to live with the idiot. I’m not letting him move in, that’s that, but the bickering and arguing and him trying to tell me I’m wrong is really becoming problematic. IIIII have to live with this person, should I not be able to be choosy? It’s not my fault he waited til 5 days before the month was over to come back and suddenly try to find someone who’s a good fit.
Am I right or am I right? Is there any way to resolve this? Let me reiterrate that I fucking hate stupid people. Stupid people also tend to be brainlessly messy, and I don’t wanna fucking clean up after another roommate all the time.
iNPUT, PLEASE?!
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I don’t think stupidity has anything to do with cleanliness.
You sound really intolerant.
If the roommate follows the rules and pays the rent, why do you care how smart he is? You just have to share space with him not be his best friend.
You’re right, but it doesn’t matter. You are not going to make your ex see the error of his ways.
Stop trying to convince him you’re right. Work with him on the practical issues. Tell him that he needs to pay next month’s rent up front, but if you can find someone to move in partway through the month (say, in two weeks) then he can have the remainder back.
Show him that you are making an effort to help find a new roommate that you are willing to live with. Yes, it should be his responsibility to do it, but he’s not going to. And as you point out, you have to live with the person. So put in the investment up front and help find someone you’ll like.
@nikipedia I totally am….searching craigslist and posting on facebook, but it’s turned up very little. I think its just a bad time of year. I don’t really know where else to turn, and our last roommate was AWFUL and I am not dealing with a total slob again. I’m actually excited to have a new roommate! I just want a decent one.
@marinelife Yeah, I’m a little intolerant, of stupidity and bad roommate-ness. I feel okay with that. It’s my house, I’m not letting someone I immediately felt negatively towards just move up into my space. It’s a VERY small house and there’s no avoiding each other.
You really need to go over your rental agreement. Is subleasing allowed? Does the landlord have a right to screen the person who will sublease?
The landlord could be your biggest ally in this.
@Judi It is allowed. Our landlord is an awesome guy and so he kind of trusts our judgement with subleasing since he likes us BUT if worst came to worst and I couldn’t get my ex to listen to me I was planning on bringing in the landlord and saying look, I don’t trust this guy, and it’s your house, you probably shouldn’t either, yada yada, whatever. But luckily we came to some common ground. I told him I need to meet at least 2 more people before I make a decision. He said okay.
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