What can you say about this phrase?

Total, complete unconditional, trusting love is so great, I couldn’t give a crap about virginity.

Virginity is a dumb construct. I’d say the phrase is accurate, then.

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Pretty sexist.

Eh. On the one hand, I like that it says that virginity isn’t the greatest gift a girl can give her husband. On the other hand, it still seems kinda sexist – she’s a girl, he’s a husband (why not use “woman” and “man”, or “wife” and “husband”); she’s still supposed to be giving him something and there isn’t really a mention of him reciprocating; it doesn’t say virginity isn’t a gift you give someone (so maybe he only gives her his love, but she gives him both her love and her virginity, in an unequal relationship); and there’s still this denigration of the body, that you really shouldn’t indulge the body, that’s something those lesser people do. There’s no mention that instead of relationships being this gift one (female) person gives another (male) person, they’re rather something two people of any sex/gender build together.

Also, this line doesn’t read properly: “But only ignorant believes that.” Who is ignorant? Should it not be Ignorant, if it’s being used as a proper noun?

And what does he give in return?

My husband knows that I’d take a bullet for him. He is accepted and loved unconditionally. He has told me- that is the best gift I can give him- everyday. In April we will be married 25 years. I imagine I would have heard if there was a problem before now.
By the way…He would take a bullet for me too.

Who is “they?” Congratulations, @annewilliams5, on a happy and sucessful marriage.

<—Virgin.
I think it’s a big deal, and I am certainly not ignorant.
For me, to give someone my virginity, I wouldn’t do it if I didn’t trust, and love them entirely. Love and trust are the gifts. Sex is the expression of that love, and that trust.

I’d take love over virginity any day of the week. But it does raise the question what is the greatest gift a man can give his wife?

Firstly, it is not a phrase, but as written, three sentences. The second and third are really only one, badly punctuated.

@Aethelflaed covers the contextual issues in clear detail; in general it sounds awkward and jejeune.

The greatest gift a girl can give a man is clearly a blow job in a ferrari…...I mean, the gift of birth, children. Awww, i’m getting all emotional now.

Jejeune. Now there’s a good word.

I am going to assume that the poster is translating that from another language, or perhaps speaks and writes English as a second language and that is why it is so awkward. Am I right? so, perhaps all you English teachers with rulers ready to whack over knuckles could be a bit less quick with the whacking

Losing one’s virginity is a one-off act. As personal as it is, it isn’t a ‘gift’ a woman gives. The social construct that dictates that a woman’s virginity is an extremely important gift for her save and then to give to some man not only lowers the true value of a woman, it negates the value of the gift altogether, because it doesn’t leave the woman free to do as she pleases with her virginity. It isn’t her gift, then, but some prize or trophy for the man who collects it. Not a gift.

I completely agree with @AshLeigh about how meaningful and important is a relationship is for fostering the intimacy of a sexual relationship. But losing one’s virginity does not make a woman any less ‘gifted’ and absolutely does not devalue her as some societies insist.

I agree. I’d much rather have sex with someone who knows what he’s doing.

I totally agree with the lines. To those who do not agree, does this mean that you will not marry a person who is not virgin even though you love her? remember, nobody’s perfect. Every human being definitely has a sin ans sex is a scene that no one can avoid.

@feedmeallfacts Pretty much everyone on this thread didn’t disagree because they think it’s bad when a woman isn’t a virgin.

@feedmeallfacts we want experienced women who know what they’re doing in bed :P lol

@Aethelflaed, I don’t think it’s bad for a woman not to be a virgin. I stand by my previous post though.

@AshLeigh Yeah, and mostly what I noticed about your post was that, even though you think it’s a gift, you didn’t seem to think it was a gift that should only be given to one’s husband. Basically, no one on this thread said “this poem is wrong, because women should wait until marriage, they should give that gift only to their new husband”.

What virginity means is you have no experience. I don’t know about you, but when I get a heart bypass operation, I want the surgeon with 2000 surgeries under their belt, not the one doing it for the first time.

And for me, love is an even more serious matter than heart surgery.

@wundayatta I actually think that really stigmatizes virgins, says there’s something wrong with being a virgin. There isn’t, especially when you’re really young. Heart surgery done wrong could actually kill you. Having sex, unless you’re doing something really kinky and are unsafe (which, most virgins aren’t doing their first time around), really won’t kill you. Or, it could kill you, but you’re not going to be any safer from HIV with an experienced partner.

Well, the only time I slept with a virgin was when I was one, too. After that, I had no interest in virgins. I had a chance and I turned it down. Other guys love the idea of popping cherries, I guess. It’s not something I like.

If that is stigmatizing virgins, then so be it. I don’t have any problems with virgins as people. I just wouldn’t want to have sex with one. I’m sure they can find others to do it with them, and eventually, if things work out right, maybe we could be lovers, though that seems highly unlikely, given the age difference.

Do I stigmatize youth by saying I wouldn’t have anyone under the age of 40 as a lover? Because, really, I don’t have a problem with that.