Did you ever confront your childhood bully?

No, there were too many bullies, and no confontation or closure with any of them. I was just relieved to be able to finally leave school.

I had a two year break from a grade-school bully when we went off to different middle-schools.

I saw him again in high school. To my surprise, he was happy to see me and insisted we were friends.

I reminded him about how he tormented me, and teased me, and took things from me. He had none of it and insisted we were buddies.

It was disconcerting, but I reluctantly relented and hung out with him a bit. He was eager to please for sure.

Then one day we went to his house and he revealed to me that his father had died, older sister was on drugs, and his mom was a raging alcoholic. I saw the mom in action – it wasn’t pretty. He was really lonely and pretty desperate.

He never did admit to being a bully, but I continued to be friendly with him through high school.

He, ultimately turned out to be a good guy, got married, had kids, became a nurse.

There were a few girls who bullied me in school, but I only ever got closure by “confronting” one of them (she picked a fight with me, and that time I fought back). I think she’s actually dead of AIDS now, and the other girls… I never speak to them and don’t care to.

One of them. My older brother. He did a lot of damage to my young self.
He has apologized all over himself in the last 25 years. I overcame it but I wasted a lot of time believing I was worthless.

In junior high school big kid at the bus stop tormented me once too many times. I charged at him and wrestled him to the ground and held his face in the dirt until he said that he would leave me alone. He learned never to mess with me again. No apology was offered or expected. Also I used this technique on two other bullies to great effect. Later in high school I was team captain of a championship winning wrestling team.

First it’s my inner child, and now it’s my inner bully?

I’m sorry, but you are taking things too far, @zensky! I want my money back!

I never confronted him. A couple of years later in high school he blew his hand off while making a pipe bomb in his basement. I know I should have felt sorry for him – but I didn’t.
I’m not even ashamed to say that.

I can’t. They’re all dead.

@LuckyGuy Did you ever find out what (or who) he was making the pipe bomb for? I wouldn’t have felt sorry for him either.

I choked a few of them out and told one of them that I’d cut off her head and drink her blood. They left me alone after that and I became popular in highschool, I was always sure to defend the bullied from there on out.

Yes I did. Impressed my whole family too. They still talk about it.

I was five and little, he was I think six or seven, a big, big boy and the street bully.

So, when he decided I was fair game, I whacked him before he could hit me. Hit him so hard he ran home to his mummy crying. Take that Vincent!!

I do not like bullies.

Should say we became very good friends after that.

@chyna I’m talking ~45–50 years ago. We all did stuff like that. But the good kids never, ever, did property damage. We also were careful. He was not, obviously. That lesson was not lost on us.

Yes.

Well had more than one. Second grade bully stabbed her hand with a pencil to show me what she wanted to do to me. I think she was taken out of school and put in a mental ward. Second bully met someone who was bigger and stronger an a good friend to me and she beat her up, so she never bothered me again. Third bully was at a summer work program and I did confront her for bullying another girl but then I found out she was a former convict and had a gang so I just dropped out before she could get her hands on me. The last bully wanted to cheat of my school work and I refused her. Told her she would have to beat me up because I wasn’t willing to get left back for cheating and doing my work for her. I was lucky there. She actually admired me for standing up to her. Plus I also buttered her up and told her she was capable of doing the work herself because she was naturally smart. I also told her that I would help her if she needed it.
Nope, no appologies but great luck in getting out of stick situations.

Yes. A new kid moved into the neighborhood and terrorized me for a year. I finally blew a gasket when he shot me in the back with his BB gun. I ran at him in a total rage. He fired a few more shots hitting me, but that just made me angrier. When I got to him I beat him to a pulp. Amazingly, after that, we became good friends.

I never really had a bully.
There were people who would decide to pick on me once. But they never did again, because I’m vicious. And if I can’t handle something, someone will help me.

Personally, I didn’t but I know the sister of another girl she bullied knocked her out in the toilets of a night club!!! It wasn’t the classiest of revenges but I had a little chuckle when I heard about it.

Well, I noticed they don’t show up at class reunions.

There was one girl who bullied me by turning people against me. I never confronted her, but she chased me down 20 years later to apologize for what she did.