Even if women were in charge, the exigencies of evolutionary success would not change. Women do not need to control male sexuality. They know who the children belong to. It is men who need to try to exert control so they can have more certainty about bringing up their own children.
It doesn’t matter how smart and knowledgeable we are about these things. Evolutionary imperatives trump civilization. We cannot legislate morality and expect ourselves to be law abiding if the laws go against what is best for passing on our genes. This is why, in fact, hypocrisy is a good technique for evolutionary success. You say you are moral, but behave otherwise as long as you can get away with it.
This article paraphrases an evolutionary psychologist named Ray Kurzban, who suggests that “One of the most popular human mating strategies is to have a faithful partner, lie to that partner, have lots of sex with other people, and then make public statements judging others for being promiscuous.”
If women ran the world, that wouldn’t change. I doubt that women would be stupid enough to try to implement laws that can’t be enforced and no man would want to follow. Besides which, they wouldn’t have the motivation to do so. Women tend to not be as concerned about male infidelity as it sounds. They make a lot of noise, but they don’t do as much as the noise would suggest. Otherwise there would be a lot more divorces. It’s just not as important to women that men are faithful as it is to men that women are faithful.
That’s why there is a double standard. Life is not equal. It may be logical, but the logic is difficult to understand, and even this evolutionary psychological point of view may turn out to be wrong. In any case, the logic of evolution does not fit the logic of justice, and thus we have double standards which people bitch about, but no one really does anything about.
None of that changes in a woman-run world. Indeed, I would argue that no such alternative universe could exist. No. I won’t go that far. I’ll say it would be a rare, rare occurrence. The way we may want the world to be is not so much in our power as we might believe. Biology has more say over social behavior than I think we are aware of.