You and your boyfriend have split and he is gone. What now for you?

I’d pick up another job and do whatever I can to make myself financially stable first. I’d size down if I had to, selling belongings and maybe moving into a cheaper apartment. It wouldn’t be that bad.

I guess keep working, there’s nothing I can do except get over it. Since I’m young I would most likely find someone else, but you can’t stop other people from living their lives.

I asked this question, to be honest, I have never been in this situation. I am not bragging, I am just saying I married my wife and we bought a house, so I do not know how people feel about being left and the consequences of it.

I know there is a generation gap here and I understand this.

This, is why I asked the question.

Get a fucking job and go on with my life?

nikipedia, I guess you would have no other choice, huh?

Well done all of you once again for healthy and normal attitudes. Had it been me…..I would have spent precious time making myself suffer for my decision, moping around feeling sorry for myself and living in the “what if” world rather than in the here and now. I would not get over it easily and blame myself for most of what happend. Very wrong I know, but true in my case!

Get a roommate or a second job, or both. Look for a cheaper apartment and spend lots of time on fun and creative hobbies.

But really, I wouldn’t move in with a boyfriend if I couldn’t afford the place on my own.

If you happen to be near the best Western in Santa Barbara right now – I’m waiting.