[NSFW] Women: Are there any circumstances in which you would go to a male prostitute, i.e. pay for sex?

Never. There are less risky and medically more prudent ways to find sexual gratification.

Absolutely not. That’s ridiculous.

Absolutely, positively, emphatically NO!

No.

no

I can’t think of a reason why I would need to pay a man for sex. I could be wrong, but I don’t think I’ve ever known a woman who had a problem finding a partner to fulfill her needs.

This is very emphatic, so far!

For $20 I could buy a B.O.B. and get the job done myself. So, that’s a no for me, too.

Why pay money for that when I have a dog?

@ragingloli – Is he a big dog?

No.

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If I became handicapped or disfigured and my dating pool became limited to uglies or losers, sure. Or if there was just an amazingly hot and charming one under the right circumstances I might go for it.

nikipedia You know what? I considered making the same response, but then I thought some more about it, and I decided no, just no! I think if you have to pay for it and it’s a “service rendered” it’s not what I want out of sex. And if what I want is an orgasm, a vibrator and/or a dildo will do just as well. Then I don’t have to demean myself.

also nikipedia If you were handicapped or disfigured I think your attitude toward “uglies” would change.

No

If you want risky, casual sex, I think most women could go to a bar and just pick up a guy. That doesn’t really appeal to me either.

@Earthgirl, I think it’s a cultural fiction to pretend that we are all sexually attracted to people’s insides. Physical attractiveness matters in sexual relationships. I don’t think ugly people are bad people and they deserve to be loved and have fulfilling lives, but in my current physical state I’m unlikely to seek them out as sexual partners.

I am not sure that prostitutes would necessarily be higher risk partners than the normal population, depending on the prostitute. In places where prostitution is legal, STD testing and prevention are very high priority. From wikipedia: Nevada law requires that registered brothel prostitutes be tested weekly (by a cervical specimen) for gonorrhea and Chlamydia trachomatis, and monthly for HIV and syphilis;[23] furthermore, condoms are mandatory for all oral sex and sexual intercourse. Brothel owners may be held liable if customers become infected with HIV after a prostitute has tested positive for the virus.

nikipedia I don’t disagree about looks mattering and I am not trying to pretend I am above it. I think we all tend to look for someone who is equal or better looking than ourselves in general. But if we love someone we can be attracted to them even if they are not very good looking.

My point was that if you were disfigured or ugly yourself you might change as a person. You would no longer be able to attract as good looking a partner. You might be more open to loving a less attractive person. You would have to come to accept yourself and love yourself even though you were disfigured. Because of this your whole mindset might change and you might start to be able to look more beyond appearances. You might be more attracted to and able to love someone who wasn’t so good looking but was an attractive personality.

@Earthgirl, absolutely, I don’t disagree—but I also think if I became ugly or disfigured, I would enjoy the opportunity to have sex with someone incredibly hot, even if I had to pay for it.

I am not sure if you meant it this way, but let me just say in my defense I do appreciate more than just looks; I think my partner and I are fortunate to have great physical chemistry but we are together for so many more reasons than just that.

nikipedia I didn’t mean it to make you sound superficial, sorry if it sounded that way. I thought you were saying that if you couldn’t any longer attract a good looking partner you would rather resort to paying for one than lo lower your standards.

Like Richard Gere in American Gigolo? I’ve never been to a male prostitute and never would.

I thought for one single second that if there was a male prostitute that looked like Charles Shaugnessy from The Nanny that I might consider it, but then I realized that I’d rather watch him do Fran, than him do me. Then I even thought that that would be kind of icky. I do love to watch him kiss her though, that’s pretty much all it takes to get me to…......uh -nuff said. : P

The whole idea of prostitution for me personally is super icky and gross. Although I can see why other people, mostly males, go in for that sort of thing. To each his own.

I can also see where it might be useful for someone that is in a handi-capped situation where it is difficult or impossible to attract a regular sexual partner, that this might be very helpful. Although I can’t imagine myself every wanting or needing that service. For me, sex is a very personal, meaninful act. Prostitution doesn’t fit into that scenario for me.

Plus, if I couldn’t find a real sexual partner, that I was in a relationship with, I’d just handle things myself.

My granny would have done this in a heartbeat, she’d have probably took the fella to bingo & shared saucy stories over a cuppa.

I might if it was something my husband wanted to do and under the right, I was really, really drunk circumstances.

absolutely not! First of all I’m a woman and not too bad looking if I do say so myself. I get sex offered to me for free almost daily, so why would I pay for it?
On the other hand I have dated guys and TREATED them like prostitutes (or made them feel that way).

Actually I think @nikipedia is right. I have mentioned this documentary here a few times now Scarlet Road and it covers the role prostitutes play in providing people with disabilities with a sexual outlet. I don’t think it has anything to do with looks as much as a release and the need to feel touched.

If I was in that sort of situation, I wouldn’t want to give a definite no. I would prefer to never have to contemplate using a male prostitute, but if I needed sexual release and human touch and that was the only way I could see getting it in a safe way, then perhaps I would. It may be that I wouldn’t want penetration as much as someone to touch and stroke me.

Nope.

I honestly have no idea. I have been creeping this question since it was asked and I keep coming up against the same thought: I just don’t know. I have never been in any sort of circumstance to need/want sex so badly that I couldn’t find someone to have sex with. In fact, I’ve never been hard up for sex. I’m not trying to brag here. This is the truth. I am not into anything too weird and I generally hang with the kind of people horny gamers of which maybe ten percent of the population is female and even fewer are any degree of attractive who I can easily have sex with, if I so choose. However, I have no idea how my circumstances are going to change in the future.

Of course, I’ve also been thinking about what constitutes paying someone for sex. I don’t know if I would ever do a straight across the board cash-for-sex-and-I’ll-never-see-you-again type thing, but I could definitely see myself in a “sugar mama” type situation at some point in my life.

^^ I’m picturing and old blue sugar mama LOL. If you got to pick who your fella was, what might he look like?

I’ve never been extremely overweight or fat or anything else that makes you un-dateable. So me, no, I wouldn’t. But I can see why someone would.

Nobody has mentioned the fact that probably most working male prostitutes don’t service women, they service men. I think if there was a market for straight male prostitutes, tons of men would sign up for that job. There doesn’t seem to be much of a market for it.

I think most women, if propositioned by a male prostitute/gigolo would laugh and say, “Really??? You must be joking! I’d rather spend my money on Funyuns and wine coolers. Why would I want to pay you, when I can watch re-runs of The Nanny and NCIS on Youtube for free???”

but that’s just me

@Kardamom lol4rl. I’m with ya’ sister! I’d eat some coconut ice cream and watch some comedy before I’d spend money on a male prostitute

Nah, I’d much rather buy chocolate than pay a guy to have sex… I mean, even suppose I set out to get myself a male prostitute, I’d end up just walking to the corner shop and buying myself fifty bars of chocolate lol!

@MilkyWay: Or buying a couple tickets to Wanted concert…

@Kardamom: Oh man, too many options. I’m watching all of Grey’s Anatomy on Hulu now so I’m going to say Mark Sloane. YUM.

@KatawaGrey OMG yes! We could go together and throw chocolate bars at them to get their attention :D

I’m with @KatawaGrey. I’m not sure, honestly. I was married for 12 years to someone who was completely degrading and unsatisfying, and at that time, if I had the chance to be admired by someone, even if it wasn’t ‘real,’ I would’ve taken it.

If I were still in America and Richard Gere was still the gigolo, well then…................???

Male prostitutes do exist, and I’m guessing that male escorts do too. Probably not as many as female prostitutes/escorts, but they’re there. I wouldn’t wanna pay for sex though, either way.

Not a single one.

Kardamom You are so funny! If they wanted me to watch reruns of The Nanny they would have to strap me to a chair, lol. I cannot take Fran Drescher’s voice.

bellatrix I know what you are saying about the importance of touch and I agree. But there is a big difference between touching and caressing and sex. I think being held and touched and feeling loved would be good. But I don’t think a prostitute would fill that need for me. There are other ways of getting that touching without having sex, like massage that are safer.

After giving it some further thought I want to modify my answer a little.

If there was a male escort, who was handsome, personable, charming, witty, and able to pleasure a woman as she had never been pleasured before, it would be awfully tempting to see what it would be like. But if I felt like he was just acting it would ruin it all for me.

This man would have to be so kind, loving, respectful and skilled in the art of making love, that he would be near impossible to find! Plus, I wouldn’t be able to afford him if I did find him. so I guess my answer still stands as a no

@Earthgirl, if you want intimate touching and you have some forms of disability, there may not be another way of getting that. If you are interested watch this Having a massage is not the same as sexual intimacy. What about someone with Downs or who has not always been a para or quadriplegic? How does someone in that situation get sexual gratification? Plus I think often, it isn’t just the sexual release it is that ‘skin hunger’ (that’s what I call it that need to feel someone else’s hands on your body and not just giving a massage).

What I am saying is none of us knows what is in our future and it may be that there are circumstances where paying a male sex worker might be something we would consider. I also think going to a sex worker can be safer and less risky than picking people up off the street AND if a person does have a disability, I would imagine they would rather go to someone who has some experience in how to pleasure someone with their specific needs.