If you were in your SO's shoes, would you fall in love with yourself?

Yes. I’m kinda hot, clever, emotionally unavailable, good with children, and I have a ton of vices I am not apologetic for.

It is kinda unfair to women now that I think about it.

I doubt it. I’m not really into men. Luckily, she is.

If I were into men, however, then I suppose so. I’m pretty popular with both the ladies and the gents, or at least with the ladies and gents who are into men.

I am crying alone into my glass of milk. I wish I had a significant other to wonder about.

Since I don’t have one presently, I’ll think about my last SO. And the answer is yes. I definitely would have fallen in love with me. I’m intelligent, good at conversation, have and good sense of humor, and I’m fun in bed. Yep. I’m a good catch.

Now, where are all the men who are looking for that? Steer them my way, please.

No. I was a complete goober. I have no idea what she saw in me at the time.

ro in motion Oh my! We were just waiting for you to ask this so we could say how great we are!!! Thank you , thank you, thank you….
I’m not being sarcastic, either
It is actually so hard to answer. I don’t know if I would because I tend to like people who have different strengths than me so that we sort of balance each other out. But then, my husband and I are alike in a lot of ways. Sometimes I think too alike. It might be better for example if both of us weren’t socially hesitant.and had a larger circle of friends. But we love and respect the same things in each other so it works.
Should I say that he got a good catch? Yes, I think he did. He’s so smart, he knew a good thing when he saw it.

That is a really difficult question. I know things about myself that my SOs hadn’t learned yet. He knew we had a lot in common and a good chance of having a good life together. But I can’t see myself from his eyes at the time. I guess I just got lucky. Would I have chosen myself if I was he? I think so. I hope so.

Absolutely I would! He has great taste in everything. How could he be wrong on this decision?

Definitely, just not for as long as she has. I’m pretty good at seeming awesome for a little while, but not longer than a few months.

Let’s just put it this way, if I walked into a girl’s apartment and a ferret ran up to greet me, there were rage comic magnets on the fridge, a guitar leaned up against the couch, anime on TV, Jack Daniels in her cup, and she was lighting a cigarette with electricity arcing out of a home made plasma driver just before it shut down power to the entire complex, I would marry her on the spot.

I am loving all these answers! Keep them coming!

I don’t think so. I mean, in theory, I’m interesting, funny, sensitive, creative and wise. My wife married a dancer and a political activist, who was also a good cook. But I had the potential for psychological difficulties, a weight problem, a lack of self-confidence, and a tendency towards self-hatred. I had also never demonstrated an ability to be faithful, as a lover.

Since I knew what I knew, I don’t think I would have married myself. Although I also knew that I am essentially a good person, whatever that means. I try. I hurt people in the process, but not because I want to. I try to make up for that hurt as best I can. But I also have this deep down feeling that I am essentially unforgiveable. I’m not Catholic or anything, but perhaps I should have been. But there’s something essentially wrong with me.

I don’t think I lied or pretended to be anyone other than who I was, but how much can you say? I didn’t even know this stuff back then. If I ever had another chance with someone, I would make it as clear as possible that there is this problem I have, but that I wanted them anyway. I don’t think that I would be able to choose me, anyway. But other people seem to have a greater capacity for forgiving me than I have.

Well, one of us is a fool. I just don’t know which one. I sure hope it’s me.

@Esedess : Wow! That’s quite a list. :-)

@Hawaii_Jake: Haha~ Yea… That’s how my last girlfriend met me. =”] Now stop crying you’re gunna get your milk all salty!

I am divorced and do not have a SO at this time, nor do I want one. But yes…I am a charming, articulate, funny, bright, attractive, creative and quick witted kinda girl, what’s not to like/love? I am married to myself and we are a great blend. lol

P. S. I am divorced because my ex was a donkey, and donkeys and race horses are not equally yoked. haha

Milo here; I am wearing four shoes and adore Gail…what’s not to love? She is subservient, obsequious, docile, and always eager to please.

why does my right hand have the thousand yard stare going on?

@Milo – you have trained @gailcalled well. :)

Milo here; It was really too easy. All I had to do was to promise not to scratch or poop outside the litter box, and she was my servile servant.

And I am married to my goose Marwyn. He is the man! Totally imprinted on me, follows me everywhere with an adoring gaze, has no issue with living in a barn and dining on bread, water, salad and cracked corn every day. Leftovers not a problem. No laundry, no snoring, no boys nights out that keep me awake with worry, and, his fondest desire is to be snuggled in my nest night and day.

Aaah, if only science could bridge the communication gap it would be a match made in heaven. lol

You don’t need science to start talking to that goose. Just a good joint.

@cockswain: Marwyn has only two legs and no thumbs so Coloma has to hold the joint for him. It is awkward, but doable, I guess. He still has trouble inhaling with that dopey beak, however.

Haha, oh trust me, we communicate very well. When Marwyn gets to go in the “big, big, tubby” my hot tub, cooled of course his little world is complete beyond belief. Floating in bliss with his true love. His beady eyes become saucers at the mere mention of such romance. lol

I don’t know, really. I’ve had a lot of guys claim to fall in love with me, so I know I have some traits they tend to like. But, I also have several chronic illnesses, have suffered from crushing depression most of my life (though that had been successfully treated by the time I met my husband, it still rears its ugly head from time to time), and have panic attacks. I don’t know if I could deal with all that! I’m kind of a handful.

I would & I do, nothing like a pair of jimmy choo’s to make a bloke look hawt.
Luckily I have fabulous legs darling.

I’m not really sure. I am hard to get to know and a bit quirky. My partner and I have similar qualities but she has the aspects I do not (or that I have a hard time with). I do not think I could be with someone just like myself. I need her strength in certain situations ..and she needs mine. We just fit. Two of me might be too much for one relationship.

It’s an interesting question. I’ll be bringing this one up with my lady tomorrow :)

Edit: I just realized that wasn’t exactly the question. It was more if I were her, would I have fallen for me. Hmm, probably not. I am not who I look for in a partner (some qualities, yes ..but not all).

In the relationship market, I’m more the “municipal bond” than the “high-risk growth stock”. If you’re looking for a safe investment of your emotions, but with little prospect for spectacular returns, I’m the guy. I think I appealed to my wife mostly because she had been burned by too many risky ventures. I can see why I looked like a welcome change.

^^ MY father, who was not prone to emotional outbursts, always told us kids never to invade our principal, assuming we had it. He waxed rhapsodic, I remember. Munis sound just fine to me.

(Speaking of growth stocks, I bought Apple at $40 and sold it several months later at $20.)

@gailcalled My wife worked at Apple Europe for a few years in the 80s and was compensated partly in stock options, but she cashed out when we moved back to the States. Better not to dwell on it.

@thorninmud: But in the wee small hours of the night, do you find yourself doing the math?

Oh yes :)

No. My S.O. wears a 5 and I wear a 14. I would be in far too much pain to fall in love with anything other than a pair of scissors.
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We’re very much alike not to the extent of brain-twins or anything, so maybe I effectively did.

Er, hmm. Prolly not. If I were my last boyfriend, I might like myself a bit. But fall in love, I denno. But he did! i think lol XD Makes you wonder just what the hell people got going through their minds sometimes lol.