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I would have given him 30 days written notice.

Sometimes you have to use tough love, this sounds like one of those times.

Unless he wants to help himself .. no one can help him.

You were pretty generous giving him 2 month’s notice.

Time for tough love and to think about YOU and what you need.

You can tell him you care and want the best for him .. but until he grows up and acts like he wants to be successful in life .. he’s on his own. You won’t enable or help him anymore.,

We’re supposed to want “kids” to grow up to be independent, productive individuals. We can’t baby them and shouldn’t.

Good Luck.

You aren’t wrong @jazmina88. Sometimes we do have to exert some tough love and it sounds as though you have been patient, helped your nephew as much as you can and your goodwill has been abused. I hope he does learn from this experience and soon has a job and is looking after himself. You have given him plenty of notice.

I agree. You aren’t wrong at all. He needs to respect you and help out. He needs to remember him staying there is a privilege and can be taken away just as easily if he doesn’t want to cooperate. <—this is what’s been drilled in my head. And I’m almost sixteen, and it really helped. Hope this helped any..!

You will be helping him in the long run.

Ever heard of the word leach? He has found a gold mine in you and will stay with you forever, unless you show him the door and kick his butt out. 30 day written notice to him and then you seek a Writ of Eviction for him.

Your kind heart has well been taken advantage of.

You made an attempt to help him, but failed. Its not your fault.

Where is his mother and father in all of this?

Your doing the right thing. Ever heard of Tough Love? He needs to go.

I would have told him, “either get your act together and become responsible, or get the hell out.”

Thank you so much my jellies!! and the kid is already asking about apt. prices.

He was kicked out of his dad’s and doesnt like his mom. He stayed at friends for 2 years. I knew had to get him support. He grew up in OH, I’m in KY. Big move.

and he cleaned the kitchen and swept last nite. Free at last!

I am very empathic, and sensitive. This is hard on me. I would not turn my back on a tick.

@jazmina88 Glad to help(: That is, if I did.. xD

Some kids are like baby birds, it takes throwing them out of the nest to get them to fly. You are doing the right thing for him. I am sure if he really really needed you, you would be there for him which in a way you are giving him what he really needs now (a swift kick in the butt to get going in life).