(NSFW) Women/others who sleep with men: Do you lose respect for men who would lose respect for you if you slept with them early on?

Yes! absolutely

I have never personally had this experience, so my answer is strictly from my opinion.

I have always felt that there are three steps in a relationship, you have described.

1. Get to to know the person first. Sure, anyone can get a roll in the hay on the first date. But, this is like drinking all the milk from a bowl of cereal first and eating the cereal last. Its like a buildup to the main attraction.

2. Gentle kissing each other, on the second date, is step No, 2.

3. Step three is the main attraction on the 3rd or 4th date. Providing that both parties are willing participants to having sex with each other, if the love is there.

These three steps build a foundation for two people that really care for each other.

Yes, there may be a few genertion gaps in my answer, so correct me, if I am wrong.

I don’t sleep with men, but I would lose respect for a man if I found out he lost respect for women who slept with him early on.

I know a guy that makes it his goal to sleep with women as quick as possible and then calls them a slut and dumps them. It could be the first date or the 10th date. I think he’s 30 years old, not that it matters, but has slept with dozens of women no more than two or three times each.
I think he is a loser.

Yes. I would have little respect for him and it would affect my decision as to whether I ever had sex with him. He and men like that are willing participants but somehow they didn’t get around to saying ‘I would feel better about you if we waited”. Ridiculous.

Ha.

He should lose respect for himself if he loses respect for his partner. I mean, it takes two doesn’t it?

@chyna I hope you are spreading the word about the 30 year old low-life. After behaving that way, he needs to spend the rest of his life looking but never finding. Let him die in frustration.

@LuckyGuy He works with friends of mine and is a traveling salesman. So he is spreading himself all over the U.S.

Men like that suck. They don’t have the right to be called men.

@chyna That’s the great thing about the internet, though. A photo and a description can go viral in no time at all. I knew a guy in college who, after getting an STD from a prostitute, decided to do whatever he could to spread his STD to every woman he met. A photo and a description sent to Student Health, the university’s feminist organization, and the university’s sexual health organization took care of that plan real quick.

Lose respect? He will be lucky to survive have a quick and painless death.

Totally.

Respect must be given and received for a relationship conducted under any terms to proceed. Preconceptions about “what is right” may fall by the wayside.

@johnPennington we are about the same age, but I see a far wider spectrum of choices that can be satisfying and can grow into lasting love [if that is the issue beyond mutual respect].

I also note that the choices you describe, conservative though they may sound, may be more likely to lead to an enduring stable relationship than some of the others.

I don’t sleep with men, but I would loose respect for anyone treating anyone with disrespect. Who is he to judge especially in a “pot calling the kettle black” situation.
Pfht!

I do lose respect for anyone who judges others for their sexual behaviors. I get really miffed when people, including family members, call any girl ‘slut’ or ‘whore’ for her sexual activities—I might not want to emulate someone’s sexual frequency, how fast they have sex with someone, or who they have sex with and where— but it is far, far from my place to judge. If I make a sexual decision that I regret… that’s my own judgment of myself, not anyone else’s.

This comes from being a single mom pretty young—people can be cruel and I now have no tolerance for judging any consenting adult’s sexual decisions.

Haha! Nice turnaround. It has never happened to me, but I absolutely would. He would be a total hypocrite.

I lose respect for any man whose definition of a slut applies only to women, or differently to women as opposed to men. If he thinks the woman is a slut for having sex with him on the first date he’s forgetting that he had sex on the first date too so that makes him one of two things:
1) Also a slut, or
2) A misogynist

@chyna Are you telling me not one of his victims has started a “Don’t date Dickwad” page?
Come on! Gurls gotta’ stick togetha’ !

God, yes. What right has he to judge her actions, especially if he is not also judging his own?

I’ve never lost respect for a girl I had sex with quickly. I’ve lost interest in some, or had regrets about having moved so fast… and in at least one case I went on to date the girl for a long time….. but I’ve never lost respect for them.

I always call my girlfriend a slut after sex. It’s the icing on the cake.

@serenade But there’s a difference between calling someone a slut as part of mutually enjoyable sex play and calling someone a slut for the purpose of disrespecting them.

If I never had sex on a first date I’d never have sex at all. I dunno, it doesn’t seem to be an issue at all in the gay scene.