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Question about a woman's behavior at a party...

Asked by serenade (3784points) April 9th, 2012 from iPhone

My gf and I went to a party yesterday (and if you’ve followed my Q’s you know she and I are in a weird place right now, but anyway…) and early on I noticed one of the women there who seemed younger—maybe mid-late 20s would just kind of get lost in staring at one or the other of us. At first it seemed like she was in a mood or something because she seemed bothered by something (almost like a mad dog stare), but it kind of fluctuated between that and a gaze. My gf left early, and after she did, this woman spent a significant amount of time totally making eyes at me—but less sexy eyes and more of a gaze or an intense stare—not unfriendly by any means, just not super googely or girly or eyelash batting or any of that. I’m kind of a gazing type myself, so in a way it was nice to encounter a rare someone who doesn’t find that uncomfortable. When I got home later, my gf remarked that she noticed this woman sort of following this other guy around the party—a particularly handsome, quiet guy, although my gf’s take was that he wasn’t really biting. I didn’t really notice that dynamic until she mentioned it. My gf didn’t seem to notice that this woman was staring at us from time to time.

Anyway… I can be kind of a blockhead in these matters, so I’m curious to know what may have been going on there—in terms of what a woman would be thinking and whether she’s a creeper or something like a guy would get branded a creeper or something more benign or what.

Addendum: we also had normal conversation amid all this, so she wasn’t totally high or something as far as I could tell.

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Bill1939's avatar

Perhaps the woman in question was under the influence of a drug.

serenade's avatar

@Bill1939, could be. There was some passing around going on but it wasn’t until later.

wundayatta's avatar

Honestly, I don’t think there’s any telling unless you ask her. There are lots of possibilities. Maybe she was just thinking about something and happened to be staring in your direction some of the time. Your gf noticed her starting at someone else some of the time. Maybe she just likes to stare at interesting people. Or boring people. Maybe she was having a mental breakdown.

The only way to get more information is to ask her, and even then, there’s no certainty you’ll get the truth.

john65pennington's avatar

Wundayatta, good answer and you hit the nail on the head.

Another thought: in the past, she may have been an acidhead and the results are what you have described.

People on acid are in a world of their own, normally. But, it effects different people in different ways. And, what you observed may just be one of them.

serenade's avatar

@john65pennington, ah… maybe that’s what it was.

marinelife's avatar

Who knows? Could be something; could be nothing to do with you. If she was also staring at a guy, then she could just be a starer.

Lightlyseared's avatar

It was a boring party and she was fantasizing having sex with you, your GF, the guy… to brighten up the time.

6rant6's avatar

Actually, I get that a lot at parties. I’ve learned to go find a mirror and check my teeth for salad.

Paradox25's avatar

Usually if somebody keeps staring at you it means that they find something interesting about you, but this can be either in a positive or negative way. She’s definitely not indifferent to you that’s for sure.

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