How does Viagra work in a relationship?

It does take about a half hour for the effects of viagra to kick in. It also takes some stimulation. I was kind of thinking it would just pop right up and say hello, but it takes some effort to get things moving. On the up side (pun intended), in our experience it did what it was supposed to do, and even if it doesn’t, there are other options out there. The one that didn’t work super well for us was the one you take Friday and is supposed to do the trick spontaneously all weekend long.

This has been an issue from us from the beginning and we always knew it would be, so I can’t speak to the impact when it is a new thing. It is definitely harder on my husband then it is on me. For me it is just a reality of his disability that I knew was going to happen, for him there is much much more to it.

It can help a couple through those hard tiimes ;¬}

@ucme – you’re such a softie….

It allows lots of time for foreplay!

When we were in couples therapy, and dealing with issue of the paucity of sex, our therapist suggested we schedule an evening each week for sex. We always resisted that idea because it seems like sex should be a part of a moment, not something you plan, but there are people who this idea works for.

I think if you have a regular evening, then you both know this and plan for it, and you can start foreplay long before you even start touching each other—joking about what day it is, and did you take the blue pill yet or whatever. You know—make fun of it in a flirtatious way. Try to take the seriousness out of it.

Eventually, for a while, anyway, Saturday night became our night without actually making it a date. It was just the most reasonable night, given all the other stuff we had to do that made us so tired most of the time.

I think that if, say, Saturday night were your night, he might take the pill at 9 or 10 or whenever works for you, but that you would have a rule that just because you take the pill doesn’t mean you have to do it. You might make it seem like that rule is for you, but it really is mostly for him.

And of course, there are other things to do besides intercourse. Sometimes, even for guys, lying and holding each other and massaging and stroking are enough. So the evening can be about you and about relaxing and enjoying doing nothing, rather than having an agenda of getting laid or nothing.

I had a wild and crazy fling when I was in my early sixties with a guy I had known since seventh grade. We remet at a HS reunion in Sept. 2001.

We were both, finally, old enough to be able to laugh about getting it on. We fooled around; he took the pill while I pressed my stop watch. When it worked (and it was only marginally successful), he leapt on top of me. We also happily used the vibrator on me.

“Let me not to the marriage of true minds (116)
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:”

He can feel free to take it when ever wants so there is always that element of surprise. If you two happen to not romp around that day then he can masturbate.

I don’t think there is anything wrong with a little planning for a night of ravishing sex though. It could allow for a new chapter in your sex life with possibly either a little more foreplay, romance, outfits, role playing, etc… I think @gailcalled has a good idea with the vibrator. It will keep you going until he gets ready from the medicine.

Have fun.

Oral is another great way to keep you going while he is revving up. Watch the movie Murderball and this reference will make you chuckle.

It keeps my wife’s boyfriend in top service condition thereby relieving me of evening duties and freeing up my time.

How fast do you want/need it to work? For fastest action he can crush it and take the power with water on a empty stomach.
The more romantic way is to take it about an hour or two after an early dinner and an hour before bed.
Here’s the timeline: Dinner, movie, take one on the ride home, talk about it the movie while touching, enjoy a light dessert, shower, and it’s time for bed.
(Or so I’ve been told.)

@elbanditoroso Well now I am yes, nothing remotely horny about typing.

slowly backs out of the question and closes the door before getting modded for inappropriateness

@LuckyGuy Whatcha doin’ Saturday night?

@janbb Maybe a light, mild, sushi dinner so there’s room for dessert later and a good movie either at the local “art” theater or at home with Netflix. Just for the record, I don’t use Viagra now. It is usually prescribed in mega-doses post surgery to get the blood flowing and promote healing. That was a lifetime ago.