I find that very insightful, @thorninmud. It makes me reflect on my role with others and how I see my value to others. I see it as being able to provide service to others; to help them.
I don’t know if I lead or not. I help people, but I keep it within certain limits. Like through fluther I can help people, but I have no set hours or even any requirement to be here. I am here when I choose, and I choose questions where I think I can be helpful. And all I want is to be helpful, although it can be hard to know if I have been helpful.
Sometimes I am serious. Sometimes I’m goofy. Sometimes people don’t get me. Sometimes people thank me. Sometimes there’s lurve. Sometimes nothing. I never can really predict when people will find me helpful, except when I am talking to someone with bipolar disorder. I generally seem to be helpful in cases like that.
But as in your organization, it’s not like I can get anything from anyone except maybe a kind word. Maybe people will be more inclined to respect me in an argument. Maybe people might come to support me in an argument. Maybe people will see my avatar and make sure to read what I have to say, even if it is long. Others may automatically skip it. There’s no way of knowing.
However I do feel I also need to open up and be vulnerable. Or at least open up and speak the truth even when it does not meet others’ approval. A lot of people do respect me when they think I am speaking the truth. Sometimes people say they respect my willingness to be vulnerable. I appreciate that. I mean, I’m glad it means something to others.
I think that I am self-serving, but I hope I make it clear that I choose to do that, and I don’t expect anyone to feed my needs unless they truly want to. But I will always try to help others, even if I don’t like something they do. I do get angry and I will think badly of people on occasion, but it isn’t permanent. Mostly I believe people are good, even when they do things that I think are harmful.
Dunno what all that adds up to. But it is my way of being here and also in the real world, except I reveal much more of my life here than I do in the real world.